Our most recent problem is that his child has no respect for me. Over the years when I’ve tried to discipline him, he would say stuff like I am not his mother, his father’s house is not mine, I can’t do him anything because his mom will get upset and come after me, or he don’t like me.
I have complained to the father so many times but to no avail. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want him to lay his hands on his kid, but a simple lecture would show that he’s trying, but I don’t get the time of day. All I get is the excuse ‘he’s a child’ and this ‘lil boy is 11’.
When I get upset because he does nothing, he will say that I don’t like his child (which is not the case).
I have my own child and when she does something wrong I discipline her in front of him, because I feel that it is important for a child to respect elders. I want to know what you think about this situation and what I should do.
Please help me!!!!!!!!!!!
Dear Miss: I would have encouraged you to slap the *** out of this child, but that’s just a fantasy I would not advise.
A lot of parents here spoil their children, so much that children often verbally and physically abuse them in public. During my childhood, it was like an abomination to disrespect anyone older, especially my stepfather. Once you cross the line, you will never attempt to cross it again. But not with a lot of children here. The parents do not know how to discipline the children effectively. They’re too soft and lame.
And when their children get into problems, they’re the first to run come and open their holes in their faces. It is sickening.
I have personally made a vow never to date anyone with a rude and vicious child. If your child cannot love and respect me, I will not love and respect your child. And if you cannot contain or control your child’s behaviour then you have no respect for me. That’s how I view such a situation.
People love to say, “Oh if you want me, if you want to love me, you must love my child too”. Of course, I agree wholeheartedly. But if your child is rotten like old eggs, and you’re not doing anything about it, then goodbye, or better yet, no thanks, not interested. Fix your child’s manners before you try to advocate love from someone new or a potential partner in your life.
I saw where you said that you don’t want him to hit his child. Come on. That’s ridiculous. Why are you protecting this rude kid from being disciplined by his father? That’s contradictory. I am not saying he should beat the child to a pulp but children deserve to be put in place physically or verbally when they get out of line.
Good parenting starts at home, not at school or with the government. When our children act like brats, commit crimes, and embarrass us in public, we blame the police, the government and the school. But truth is, the parenting is the problem most of the times.
I have seen children spit and hit strangers and all the parents do is laugh and say “don’t do that baby.” Not with my mother, she would do some Jet Li on the child.
I know the child advocates will be appalled by my response, but I know these advocates – some of them – are slapping the urine out of their kids. Some are hypocrites. I am 100% sure you’re writing me because you have already tried to reach out kindly to this child.
Look, if this man don’t want to do something about this kid, do what’s best for you.
You definitely do not deserve this bull—-.
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