I currently live in the US. I’m trying to finish school within one year, taking day and night classes just to get back to him in St. Lucia.
I recently found out that he cheated on me with a girl by the beach at a party, and this girl could be pregnant. He told me he was ashamed for what he did. My thing with him is he likes to share his number with women too much.
Willie, I really don’t want to throw away the relationship over this. I told him to get her a test to find out if she’s pregnant, and if she is, take her to the doctor to find out how far long she is, because this happen this passed week.
Willie, what makes it hurt so bad is the day he had sex with her, was the day I was taken to the emergency room for my medical issue. I just can’t get over the fact that while I was suffering he was getting down with the girl. I’m disgusted that he had unprotected sex with her.
Then he goes on to tell me the girl said to work things out with me. Willie I don’t know if I should stay or leave. This is the first time he cheated on me. Should I give him a chance? Please help!
Confused and Sad
Dear Confused and Sad: It’s the first time he has cheated on you? Said who? I think you meant to say that’s the first time you know of. It could be his first but based on what you just told me, that may not be his first.
He loves giving his numbers to women too much? How do you know that? And if there’s proof or if he told you so, then why do you think he hasn’t cheated before?
Babes, you have a medical issue, I do not know what it is, but please take it easy. I know you love your man and you yearn for him, but try your best to concentrate on YOU as much as you can. He is not your husband. Men come, men go. You will sacrifice for him and that’s the crap you get it?
Long distance relationships are challenging. Very challenging, especially for the men. When you left to study, you should have had that in mind. Anything is possible.
I am not going to tell you to leave him because people make mistakes, but think about it: do you love him that much to want to sacrifice your time for him? Is he worth it? Do you believe you will ever trust him again?
Ask yourself these questions and more, and come up with a decision. Personally, in my opinion, once a cheater, always a cheater. But in life, some people deserve a second chance. The fact that he told you he cheated, and he may have been upfront with you on other occasions, gives him a point in my book.
However, there may be other things he hasn’t told you. At the end of the day it is your decision.
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