Where is your mental maturity?

Where is your mental maturity?
Cdr. Bud Slabbaert
Cdr. Bud Slabbaert

The older I get, the more I start asking why, and I start questioning all the answers. Maybe it’s a remnant of the child in me.

When children are getting to the age of three, they start asking questions. It heralds a sudden upsurge in their intellectual development. The very youngest will simply accept that things are the way they are, like mother milk. Past a certain age the child with a greater degree of mental maturity will want to know why. You are an adult, where do you stand? Do you estimate that you have mental maturity enough to stop asking questions? Wow, I got you there!

At the age of around three, the process of “individuation” occurs. Children begin to become aware of themselves as individuals and start to see the gap between how the world is and how they want it to be. I bet that most of you still see the gap, but what are you doing about it? Be honest with yourself; most likely nothing! You do what you need to do and not what you want to do, and that’s how life continues to run smoothly. Right? Is that your way or his/her way? Okay, have it either way if that satisfies you. You see? That is where Individuation comes in, and it applies to our private life just as much as to business and even industry. Or…, one could just go by the option that what seems to be is better than nothing.

Most of what we do is a bunch of nonsense!

“Why” is not simply about curiosity. It is about asking for a reason. Ask the why-question to people in any kind of activity. Most likely you’ll get the answer that they were told to do so or have always done it that way. Often the “Answer” to the “Why” is more like “Rocks are hard and water is wet”. People really start slipping and sliding with their responses, when more why-questions are coming thick and fast, and go on like a broken record of whys. One is becoming subject to be considered a nuisance. Who wants to be a nuisance? And so, that’s where the questioning stops most of the times.

What is considered a nuisance here, is where the most brilliant minds keep going on. People love to quote Einstein because quoting him gives an impression that one also has intelligence. A bit like rubbing off. What better way to show one’s intelligence, than agreeing with a genius? It is funny though that there is a quote from the genius Einstein himself that you don’t see much; he said: “It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.“ That is what Einstein was all about! That may give you a hint why, where mediocre minds consider questioning a nuisance and the brilliant minds create a new theory and get a Nobel Prize!

Individuation is best for business

In business, individuation parallels specialization and increases efficiency. It serves as a means for individuals to find comparative advantage in their working environment or career. For business it could create a comparative advantage in the marketplace. Isn’t that what most of us want, be better and make more money? Let’s think of that kid’s stuff above, put it into place here, and you will see that it is what is needed most in our business and our industry. It makes you wonder how we forgot what we did at age three. Keep asking “Why”! Why the heck are we doing this and especially why this way? Why isn’t there a better way? Individuation is the process through which a person or a business becomes its “true self”.

In psychology it is considered the process whereby the innate elements of personality; the different experiences of a person’s life and the different aspects and components of the immature psyche become integrated over time into a well-functioning whole. Take a pause, try to digest the bit of psychology, and read again but this time apply it to a business.

Individuation is stabilizing a professional’s personality, or a business; it is also a process of establishing a competitive edge! Understand why the why-questions are so valuable and we should not stop asking them? In fact, we should ask it more because we all know darn well that we ourselves, our society, our business and industry are not perfect.

Stop the world; start asking why!

Yes, I have come to the conclusion that most things we do in life or do in business are just a bunch of nonsense and what is worse that we keep doing it for no good reason at all. Some will blame it on the boss, some on the weather, others on childhood or their mother-in-law. Oh, almost forgot hurricane and recession. More asking Why can make us wiser, more competent and improve our mental maturity.

Cdr.Bud Slabbaert is the initiator and coordinator of the annual Caribbean Aviation Meetup conference which will be held on St.Maarten/St.Martin, June 11-13 (www.caribavia.com). The international results and solution oriented event brings airlift stakeholders from both aviation and tourism industry, as well as government authorities together. Slabbaert’s background is accentuated by Business Development, Strategic Communication, and Journalism.


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  1. 5/22/2019
    I Proclaim on the rooftop that the “King is coming”! I announce to the ends of the earth, that the “King is coming”. And that the days of Noah are here. “Prepare ye the way of the Lord and make straight his paths.” Tell all the world that I am coming back soon. “I am coming for those who have laid their burdens down”. In the name of Jesus. Amen.
    The father says: Human efforts will only get you so far, but I can take you beyond the wounds into a blessing that you would never have received any other way. Many will wag their finger in doubt in denial, but I say, I will do what I have promised for you. Lay it all at my alter and just watch and see if I don’t come through for you on every issue. I saw what happened and I am a father who keeps great records. You can remind me but realize that I care for you more than just to let wrongs go unanswered. Wait for my timing as there are factors that you may not be aware of. Today I am ripping the bad from your mind, if you would give it to me. What was attached to these grievances are coming out and never to be revisited again. Letting go is the only way to find true freedom to what seems to plague you at times.
    Renounce the desire to let these matters to enter your mind from this day forward. I have never failed you and today will not be the day either. Take the word from one that will not lie or forsake you when you are in need. You are catching higher and higher ways and in this you are feeling like you are going up and down. You are learning and gaining confidence. Fearlessness and courage are multiplying as you conquer each new challenge. The next five months are going to be a time for you to witness who you are in me. I am showing you what I see and what I designed for your days. I have more for you than you have asked and what you imagine, I will do in and through you. It is time to let the old wash off and embrace what I am doing for this generation and time in the earth realm. I have taken the training wheels off and it is time to try out what has been on the inside.
    Be mindful that many religious minds will seek to put the training wheels back on, but I say go for it. I am here if you fall, nothing to worry about. Just as an eagle must learn to fly, you are out of the nest learning and stretching your own wings. I qualified you not anyone else. Consider yourself fully vetted for my name sake and kingdom. Many are looking for a bad report card when I only see the good. Do you not know that the blood washes away all that is less than my best? I have no desire to see what is less when I am taking you to and through. It is finished, means exactly that. I no longer see the sinner and you have emerged as my saint. Be free, for when you place chains around your mind body and soul, you will limit all that your body is capable of. You are granted title and deed. My living water never dries up. Partake, and all that desire to come as well. It is time to walk like you are truly my Royal sons and daughters. Put away the warfare amongst yourselves. If I am your father, then I will fight those battles for you.
    * These are the words of – Yahushua Hamashiach.
    Do you know him, he knows you? Repent; be baptized and receive the gift of the Holy Spirit, those of you who have not done so, for when the books are closed, no one will be able to enter in. God is sending warnings after warnings. We are in the End Times and he does not want ANYONE to Perish. Time is running out, get saved now while you have time. He is the only way to salvation. Amend your ways and you will be allowed to remain in the land. Let those who have ears to hear and those who have eyes to see. Repent now! Remain strong, bold, courageous and steadfast in your faith.
    Credit to Brother Shomrim Ben Yahshua for my reference, may God bless you my, brother.


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