I made this known long before the child was born and she claimed she had no problem because she knows the child is mine. But she is now singing a different tune now that the baby is here. She said it makes no sense being with a man who doesn’t trust her and that I am trying to shame her, making her seem like a slut.
I told her she has cheated on me before, and though we overlooked that because I was also guilty, I want to do it.
Dr. Cindy should I continue taking care of this child when I am not sure it belongs to me?
Sorry to hear that given the conflict of the child’s paternity, you and your girlfriend broke up.
Your insistence to have a DNA test conducted is not unusual, if you believe you have just cause to request one. The previous infidelity on the part of your girlfriend seemed to cause you to doubt the paternity of the child. Additionally, trust was broken because of this as well.
From what you have presented, your concern seems to be the paternity of the child and taking care of a child that may not be your biological child. Unfortunately, both parties may not agree to a DNA test, hence one finds themself in the situation of asking what to do.
The answer to your question of whether or not you should take care of a child that may not belong to you remains with you. I suspect there may be other factors involved that you have not presented here. How do you feel about the child, have you created a bond with the child?
These may be some of the questions you may want to ask yourself, when deciding what to do. If, however, you are adamant that you will not and do not want to take care of a child who does not belong to you, despite any other factors, I suggest seeking legal counsel for how you may address the issue; as the paternity seems to be what you want to know.
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