I had a really big ego and thought I can do anything and she would never leave me. I broke up with her before I went off to school. A few months later while I was at school, we began to talk again. I came home from school due to financial reasons so we spent that summer together and dated.
She ended up going away to school while I was at home, and she broke up with me a couple months later. I spent so much time texting her, trying to get her back but she didn’t have the feelings she once did. Now she is dating someone else and I still have all these feelings for her, more than I ever have for some reason.
Given the chance I know I would be better than I was before. I really need some help getting over this because it has really began to affect my life in many negatives ways. Thank you.
Dear Sir: Seems like your ex got back at you in the smoothest way. I am not saying she did it on purpose, but never underestimate the female. They perfect the art of patience in revenge games.
You just have to accept it. It is a bitter pill to swallow, but the fact that she is overseas, makes it more complicated. Out of sight, out of mind.
It may appear both of you were together for convenience – not real love. As you prepared to leave for school, you dumped her. What’s the sense having a girlfriend, staying faithful when you’re thousands of miles away, and will have the opportunity to date many others? You were smart enough to keep the connection, so that when you’re home you will have some ‘sure’ booty.
She probably did the same. She went overseas and saw no need for a long distance relationship after a while. Why would she? Many men are just minutes away.
I would not be surprised that when she returns, both of you hook up again, and the cycle continues.
But all that is just my active imagination of possibilities.
Sometimes we have to learn our lessons the hard way. What goes around comes around. When you treat someone like crap, someone who was nothing but nice to you, you must prepare for the karma, sooner or later.
But bro, the best I could say is leave this girl alone. Most men tend to get more clingy when they realise another man is drinking from the sweet bowl they used to use. To deal with us, be the strong one. Don’t make her know you’re hurting, be a man. Just don’t care about what she does.
And respect her relationship. There are many fishes in the sea. Stop communicating with her, and don’t allow any cycle to continue. Don’t get too friendly or close in anyway.
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