When he took me to his parent’s house I soon found out that he is a married man. He told me he’s going through a divorce with his wife because things have not been nice for eight years of marriage. So I thought it was over and since I was already intimate with him I decided to stay with him. We soon moved in together.
Two days after he left me in the house and went to his wife, I started thinking whether I should stay or go because I don’t think he will be over his wife. He started coming over for one week and stay at his wife for one week, which I didn’t think is healthy.
I told him about choosing one and not two because a double life is not safe. He then decided to live a triple life. He met another woman who doesn’t live far from us. He and the woman text each other every day for hours and he will say she’s just a friend.
Soon after that I was using his phone to do some stuff and saw some messages that didn’t relate to just a friend. I questioned him after and he said that he has nothing with her. I didn’t nag. I just chilled and watched how things are going.
After he text the woman about coming to pick her up he still said it was a game. I still didn’t nag. So I decided to give her a call and ask what’s going on. She told me that they had sex and he said he doesn’t have a woman because he moved out from the place.
After speaking to the woman, I confronted him. He still lied and said it was a lie. I don’t trust him anymore. I use to give him everything he needs but now when he asks I say I don’t have and can’t help. I still love him but afraid to show it and I still want to help him. Do you think I should forgive him and work things out or let him move on with his life? I need your help.
Dear Miss: I am very curious. What do you want to help this man with? Is he depending on your financially or something?
I must give this man an award for Player of the Year. What amuses me is that he brought you to meet his parents without telling you he is already married. And after finding out during the trip at his parent’s house that he has been lying to you all this time, you stayed with him? Wow!
What made it worst is, he has been seeing two other women, including his wife, while being with you, and you’re still considering whether you should stay or leave? You get evidence that he is a liar and a player and you’re still considering staying with him?
The advice I am going to live is not just for you but all women out there. Not only should you stay miles away from married men, but DO NOT, EVER, EVER, EVER entertain their excuse that they’re in the process of a divorce. Most times, if not all, it is a trick to get in your panties.
Most times these men are NOT going through a divorce. They have good wives and family back home. They just want to give you a little hope because that’s all it takes many times to get some cat. They’re smart and have played this game over and over. I know too many females who have been tricked this way by hearing this lame crap: “Oh, I am married but going through a divorce. Me and my wife are over. Just the final papers I am waiting on.”
If the man is NOT divorced, leave him alone, no friendship, nothing! Unless you can see the final papers saying “divorce completed”, get the hell out of his way or vice versa.
What really angers me is that after having an affair with you, he is cheating on you with another woman and lying about it even when you have evidence.
I suggest you kick this**hole out forthwith. Forgive but no reconciliation in any form. Move on with your life and learn from the silly mistakes.
This man has three women playing dice with: this week for you, next week for her, tonight for the neighbor. LOL. I wouldn’t be surprised if he has more.
Well I hope you learned your lesson. And all the other chicken head women reading this (who are messing with people’s husbands) take a clue.
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