I have none. We have been dating for eight months and his attitude sucks, but he has never been violent towards me. He has a problem with trust, saying that he has been with the baby momma for 10 years till they broke up because she cheated on him. He said he doesn’t want to be hurt again so he stayed single for seven years with only one-night stands till he met me.
I’m not worried. All testing was done before sex started, but he accuses me of having a man in my room and that I made the man keep quiet so I can speak to him on the phone since we live six hours away from each other.
I have never cheated on him. This makes me suspect his fidelity instead. Also, he threw away a new pair of panties he bought me that I forgot at his place. He went abroad for 28 days and my friend introduced me to this other guy. Worse yet, this guy is 37 with a separated wife (separated for four years now) whom he still lives with in separate rooms (wa eye nuh see heart nuh leap). He claimed that they have to pay off the mortgage on the house then sell it and get a place of his own. He said this was his plan before he even met me.
He also claims she doesn’t want to buy him out and he doesn’t want to buy out either. They have no kids but he has one with another woman before he met the separated wifey. He said he loves me (already) even though I have only known him for two weeks. He use to pressure me for sex but gave up when he realised it wasn’t going to happen.
I am not a two-man woman. He knows I have a man. I told him the first time I met him. But he is still around whenever he is off work, and he calls me for long hours even when at home at any time, and always surprises me with stuff (but then again you can’t catch flies with vinegar if you know what I mean) .
He seems to be nice but I don’t know for sure. I love my man although I have never told him so and I feel like he loves me even though he has never said it. But I kinda like this guy too. I need help to make a decision. My guy will be back soon. Should I leave him or forget this other guy I just met or forget them both?
Dear Miss: Do you love this new ‘guy’? Ask yourself that.
You said you love your man so why are you entertaining this guy who claims to be separated? What if he is lying?
Why even considering dumping the known for the unknown?
I urge you to stop entertaining this other guy before you create a huge miss or do something you will regret.
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