Senior pastor having an affair with my daughter

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Senior pastor having an affair with my daughter

Dear Willie: I greet my readers in the mighty name of the Lord, our soon coming king. I am a Christian believer but a sinner like everyone reading this article.

A lot of people will be judgmental but nobody is perfect. The church is not perfect.

This situation is about my daughter. She is having an affair with one of the pastors in our church. She knows it is wrong but she still continues to have sexual relations with our dear brother in Christ.

I spoke to him about it as well and he denied it until one day I walked in on them having sex in our house. I did warn them that I will write about this if it continues. I find it disrespectful to me and God.

What’s unhealthy about all this is that the man is in his 40s. My daughter is a teenager (I won’t disclose her age).

He has apologized and begged for forgiveness but they still continue to communicate. It really bothers me that we all go to church on Sundays worshiping like nothing ever happens. But it has overwhelmed my heart to the point that I seldom go to church of recent.

I am itching to make a formal complaint to the head pastor but am wondering if that’s a good idea. This man must know his place. My daughter could be his daughter.

If my daughter’s father finds out it will not be pretty. My daughter continues to lie about the affair.

Do you think I should make a formal complaint to the head pastor? How should I deal with this?

Faithful Servant

Dear Faithful Servant:

I agree that no one is perfect including the church. I am very curious about your daughter’s age. I hope she is not under-aged (under 16). If she is, then that would be a criminal offence and that would be a law enforcement matter if you wish to take it to that level.

I strongly encourage you to make a formal complaint to the head pastor if you said you have spoken to both parties already. If this continues, it may get worst: your daughter could get pregnant.

I am not going to be a judge or jury but I am very aware of the nastiness going on in many churches and some of those very people want to give you Biblical advice. That is so hypocritical.

Anyway, please act fast before it is too late.

Willie

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39 COMMENTS

  1. i would love to support u through this ,
    but deal with your daughter it wont be easy but dont give up hey.u didnt raise your child for this pray about talk to your husband as well explain sit him down an work together othrewise he will also resent u.

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  2. i see u are concerned about what people will think ,but u know the longer u keep it silent the worse your reputation will be , i am 18 years old an the same things happened i fell in love with him because he had a way with me, an at time i wished i could tell my mom even tho i would've fought her but bcz she didn't know i struggled on my own, he is manipulating your daughter he is suttle an sly i tell u he is confusing her she knows its not right but she wont admit it.an by keeping quite an allowing this man to lead your church it will eat on you an his spirit of lust will come over the congregation all of a sudden the youth leader will be doing the same first hand experience,God can not be present where sin is going on , there can be other mothers going through the same , maybe you have been called to stand up against these men.your daughter may not thank you now but one day she will look back an thanku

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  3. At the same time what is going on is Wrong but weather the girl is under age or not guess what she likes it cause they are continuing The relationship its not like the pastor is forcing her to do it not saying that it's right but at the end of the day we like to put our hand in fire for them girls when they like their thing

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  4. lady if he is doing it to your daughter at some point it was be someone elses daughter. he is in a position of trust and as such you need to report this befoe it gets out of control.

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  5. Lady let me tell u something i dont know why u dont take this matter to your senoir pastor. this have to be address by u and the persons invouled in this mess up nastiness u as a mom should know batter unless u are getting paid to say nothing money the root of all evil. exposed is ass now. let the church be the church.

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  6. why do some of us shield those people he is not your brother in Christ he is doing the work of his father the devil he is a pervert not a pastor wake up and smell the coffee madam who you rather the pastor or the well being of your daughter a mather is there to protect her child at all cost you should embaras the son of a bitch in the church the man is a monstor these kind of people hide behind the cloth such a shame

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  7. LADY it seems that senior pastor/brother is your man as well keep protecting your man and neglect your daughter .A KICK YOU NEED TO WAKE YOU UP.

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  8. lady, being a Christian is a reflection on GOD, GOD like and here you are not being that person because of the fact you are covering sin and that makes you a sinner until you have done what is right and that is to let the head pastor know what is going on or you are just as guilty as that pastor. Next thing that bothers me is where is you cover for that daughter you should be protecting? Stop hiding this mans nasty behaviour and expose him

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  9. All of you folks giving your opinion is great.but in the real world there are plenty of young taking cocky from the pastor.not today dem vibes happening.you all acting like dem ting just start running.u can't stop dem ting.he go just start sexing another goal in d church.d man honey.let jah deal with him.deh have worst ting than that running in church..married woman sexing d pastor along with their children.think jah eh seeing u all.fyah ah go bun.watch yourself.

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  10. A teenager? Your daughter? Lady, you need some serious therapy. If you're not doing anything to protect her, what kind of mother ARE YOU?! You warn the pastor? Get a warrant to keep mate away from your daughter!!! Pastors have a special vocation - God holds them more accountable than anybody else in the Christian community. After there is so much wickedness out there, you encouraging it... (because that's exactly what you're doing if you're taking no action), in the church? Come on people!!! Who is going to protect our children... teenagers or otherwise?

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  11. Glory!!!!!!"!!lord these so called pastors are leading your people astray. what church is this? how could a man of God do such things to his sis in christ. when God said judgement will beging in the church its no joke. u r preaching to his people about sins and here
    r f

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  12. aren't you the mother, to me you are not doing enough to save your daughter. this matter should have been dealt with the moment it started. if your daughter is yyour priority you would stop this nonsense and report his ass right now. it seems u are hesitating because of what people will think of your daughter ? if she is underage its obvious she is making a hug mistake and with u not doing anything she believes that it is ok. is she the head in your household? is she the one sending herself to school? is she the one paying bills? you are a mother you have the right to protect your young child from such nastiness, she has to learn now that that sort of behaviour is unacceptable particularly in the church. smh churches self smh sometimes i think truly pastors are there to brainwash ppl and make them do as they see fit not God sees fit but themselves. Lucians check yourself and stand up for the word of God...

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  13. Hi. Would first like to start off by commending you for seeking the help of others. Not many in your position would even discuss a matter like this. I have my opinion like everyone else but my words have no weigh especially since you do not know me. Therefore since you are a christian like myself, God's word is the best thing to use to answer the question. Two scriptures came to mind when I read your story. One at Leviticus 5:1 and the other at Matthew 18:15-17.Both speak about the matter and I think you will find them rather helpful. After all god always gives us the best advice. Hope it works out well, with as little hurt feelings and in some cases, violence as possible.

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  14. well said willie. da head pastor must be told. and da sad thing is da these same people want to quote da bible to u from front to back yet still dey sin in ways dat u wont imagine.

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  15. I know am not supposed to judge u but there is absolutely nothing Christian about. Ure an impostor and u know it!!!!! Yh keep kidding urself. Your motives in this matter is to save face and nothing to do with putting an end to this immorality. Choopse........ Woman do what's right for your daughter before this fool impregnates her and brings on further shame to her.

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  16. lol Pastor giving out some Jesus Juice...Sorry but i just had to say it.

    Ok now that this is out of my system lets talk. I think this individual should one, consult with the child's father before reporting this matter to the senior pastor or whoever is in charge. i think the child's father has the right to know. If said child is under age then report that son of a bitch to the police.

    Its time we put a stop to these salop ministers taking advantage of their position

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  17. This month is actually pastor's appreciation month.. wow.. I am not surprised by this because there is too much religion and not spirituality...
    I think you should report the matter to the head pastor because you will also be held responsible for keeping such a sin silent.
    such hypocrisy..how can you tell the young people to abstain from fornication?? this pastor needs to resign because God will not be mocked..

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  18. I know it's not the best thing to judge...But the truth is...that "pastor's" behaviour is DISGUSTING. Bottom Line. He is walking a very dangerous path playing around with God like that. There is NO excuse! Control yourself and keep it in your pants.

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  19. OK this is a serious situation right here, regardless of the daughter's age u should make this complaint my lady, i have read in the bible though i cant give the exact verse n scripture at this very moment but it is in the new testament, that when something like this happens u should talk to the person or people involved about it,if they won't listen have 2 or 3 other people talk to them if they still wont listen then u take the matter to the attention of the entire church. Now in ur statement u said u spoke to both of them n so far they are still doing their own thing so u should and must report this kind of behavior to the head pastor because the bible also states that if u are aware of such behavior whether u are involved or not, in God's eyes u are guilty just like everybody involved, so do what is right and talk to the head pastor.PLEASE

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  20. This is full blown nastiness, the mother should have called the police at once and expose this imposter of Christianity. This is why people don't respect true Christians because there are so many false vines and hell yes I am judging this fake pastor cause the Bible said by their fruits we shall know them. This is totally unaccepted in Christendom. Expose Him and do not be partaker of his iniquity. PERVERTs

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  21. what a shame i don't no what u was waiting for but i would of SHOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!HIS ASSSS!!! on the spot but u should of dealt with that matter a long time ago hun look at the results of it today ummm ...i wonder y that brother in Christ was thinking trying and bless the lady's child he should be ashamed of his self and should be delt with accordingly now you c why alot of people tend to c christens do the most ........well all i can say is seek Christ in this matter as to what to do cuz surly u are not sure

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