A lot of people will be judgmental but nobody is perfect. The church is not perfect.
This situation is about my daughter. She is having an affair with one of the pastors in our church. She knows it is wrong but she still continues to have sexual relations with our dear brother in Christ.
I spoke to him about it as well and he denied it until one day I walked in on them having sex in our house. I did warn them that I will write about this if it continues. I find it disrespectful to me and God.
What’s unhealthy about all this is that the man is in his 40s. My daughter is a teenager (I won’t disclose her age).
He has apologized and begged for forgiveness but they still continue to communicate. It really bothers me that we all go to church on Sundays worshiping like nothing ever happens. But it has overwhelmed my heart to the point that I seldom go to church of recent.
I am itching to make a formal complaint to the head pastor but am wondering if that’s a good idea. This man must know his place. My daughter could be his daughter.
If my daughter’s father finds out it will not be pretty. My daughter continues to lie about the affair.
Do you think I should make a formal complaint to the head pastor? How should I deal with this?
Dear Faithful Servant:
I agree that no one is perfect including the church. I am very curious about your daughter’s age. I hope she is not under-aged (under 16). If she is, then that would be a criminal offence and that would be a law enforcement matter if you wish to take it to that level.
I strongly encourage you to make a formal complaint to the head pastor if you said you have spoken to both parties already. If this continues, it may get worst: your daughter could get pregnant.
I am not going to be a judge or jury but I am very aware of the nastiness going on in many churches and some of those very people want to give you Biblical advice. That is so hypocritical.
Anyway, please act fast before it is too late.
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