Since then I have not been able to trust him. We keep having frequent arguments over this and other suspicious things, though he has told me sorry and explained he won’t do it again. He says I am too insecure, but I know I am naturally not but if I get reason to, I will become insecure.
He has even gone as far as telling me about his every whereabouts and everything he does. But I still cannot trust him. He is interested in a relationship. And while I have feelings for him, I am confused as to whether or not I should take this step and confirm a relationship.
Should I enter into a relationship with this young man?
As a result of the findings of the messages from his Facebook, you are cautious of trusting him; this is normal. You indicated that due to your lack of trust in his fidelity, there have been frequent arguments.
The arguments may continue if the trust continues to be a factor for you. It can be argued that he is trying to work on the trust by letting you know of his whereabouts. Is this, however, sufficient for you?
You stated that he is interested in a relationship, and you admit to having feelings for him. I suggest not to make a hasty decision just to make one, as you have indicated you are confused. Before you make the decision of whether or not to enter into a relationship with the young man, I suggest looking at the possible consequences of you not trusting him, such as the frequent arguments. Are you willing to live with the consequences, whatever they are?
Also, realize that trust is built over time and perhaps he may be able to gain your trust overtime, should he be sincere in his efforts?
Lastly, you stated that you cannot trust him, know that because of his actions, you choose not to trust him.
To trust is actually a choice, not a feeling. The choice is yours.
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