Obsessed with threesomes, help!

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Obsessed with threesomes, help!

Dear Dr. Cindy: I am 28, single and never been married. I need your help.

I do enjoy sex with one person for as long as I remember. Once, I did a threesome with a friend of mine. I have been hooked ever since. It has been an obsession.

This friend of mine is a female. I have started to develop feelings for her. She told me she does not feel the same but we continue to have a sexual relationship.

What I love about her is her openness in bed to try new things. I have dated many girls and you can barely talk to them about sex more so about threesome.

I do not think I will be happy in a relationship sexually with one person. I know I can commit to that person but that person would need to be interested in threesomes and other kinky stuff. That is why I stayed single cause the country is lacking freaky, open-minded people.

However, I fear that I may stay single for the rest of my life and I do not want this to be.

I just wish my friend had felt the same way. She says she is bi and she does not think I would want a bi girl. She is soo wrong. I just cannot convince her that I am true.

I cannot convince anyone. What should I do?

Confused

Dear Obsessed with a Threesome:

It seems as if your first encounter with a threesome was freaky and sexually uninhibited for the three of you. This as you stated have led to you being hooked and obsessed with a threesome.

It sounds to me that what you are really looking for is openness and freakiness in bed, someone who is willing to try new things. You stated that what you love about your female friend is “her openness in bed to try new things.” It seems as if your admitted fear of being alone and being okay with having a relationship with a bi-girl has you pondering more so now on these things. Do you think if you were to convince her of your sexuality, she would consider the relationship? How would you convince her?

My suggestion would be to ask yourself, what am I really looking for? Is it openness/freakiness in bed or the assurance of a threesome most of the time? Is it that you like the threesome or the openness and freakiness?

Food for thought: A threesome does not constitute or guarantee openness or freakiness. I will even go a step further and say, the first time of anything cannot be fully replicated or reproduced exactly, for it has past.

The best we can do is to remember the feeling and try to live in the present. Trying to find/have the first feeling will always leave you searching for an unattainable goal.

Best Wishes,
Dr. Cindy

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  1. there is too much confusion of sexuality here an you don't know what you want, or you have a split personality taking over you choices at times.You can't have a proper relationship without being sound mentally. And for those who find nothing wrong with anything in this world... good luck doubt you will ever find out what life is about

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  2. My goodness. The world has definitely gone loco. Stop this abomination and turn to God to rid you of such vile sin. Why do we feel that everything we do is right just because it's accepted? It is sick. Move away from such abomination.

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  3. Threesome are great but you may have to look for a partner who share similar interest sexually they are out there, you can love each other and be open with your sexual adventures... good luck

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  4. i dont see anything wrong being with a bi female i am also bi and i love doing free somes which i am married to

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