Dear Willie: I have two kids with a guy who works for a sales company. My children’s father and I broke up eight years ago because of the constant physical abuse. In fact, when I was seven and a half months pregnant with our second child, he sexually assaulted me causing my placenta to separate a month before I gave birth. I was hospitalised and the police were called in.
During that time he refused to take care of his son so I went to a lawyer and he was called in. The matter was then brought before the court. I had to wait till I gave birth for the case to be heard again.
After I gave birth my mom told me that now that I have two kids with the guy, to finish with that cause it would be too stressful on me because I had just given birth. So I dropped the charges and had my lawyer draw a document for child maintenance.
It became an issue because the man wanted to have sex with me after we broke up and I refused. I opened an account so he could send the kids money to it because I wanted no contact with him. Instead of putting the amount he was supposed to put, he put 50 dollars less. Now he claiming he’s not getting paid when we takes vacation. Yeah right. Every time he takes vacation he eh putting the kids’ money there and he hasn’t given any money to help with school supplies.
Our eldest is in secondary school and the other grade six. I hustle to try to care of them. I have sent him texts and called him to find out why he has not put the kids money in the bank, but he is not responding. He has left his home in Babonneau and has gone to stay with a woman in Vieux fort who has left her husband for him.
INSTEAD OF TAKING CARE OF HIS KIDS, HE TAKES CARE OF HERS. He also makes people believe he is taking care of our kids when in fact I am the one doing it. He keeps asking me to have sex with him and I keep refusing because I have my man. This is my last hope to find a solution. Help please.
Dear Miss: Sorry to hear about this situation. Your problems are quite common.
If he signed a legal child-support document then you can hold him accountable. I urge you to consult with your lawyer on what steps to take.
He/she might very well encourage you to take your children’s father to court.
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