Willie, some months I met this guy from Castries. He is in late 20s. He is a very sweet guy. He listens to me, gives me advice, brings me lunch and do anything I ask of him. In the face department, he could pass as well.
I think I am falling for this guy. My problem is he does not seem to be able to read and write, and he gets upset with me when I ask him to be honest, even threatening to throw blows on me.
One evening we were at Super J. We planned to have sex that night so I told him to buy some condoms. While in the supermarket, he picked up a pack of condoms. I was right there with him. I told him I am allergic to latex condoms as they give me itching and redness.
I told him buy non-Latex condoms. I saw the chap reading the box thoroughly for like two minutes, so I check all was well – until we had sex. My vagina was on fire, it go so fat Willie, and it was hurting.
I asked him what type of condoms. He did not answer me so I went and check the box. To my predicament, the man bought a latex condom. I asked him if he did not read the label, and he said he did, but did not see the part about latex. I told him latex was big and bold on the condom box. We had a big argument about it and he wanted to hit me when I asked him if he can’t read.
Anyway, another time he called and asked if I wanted lunch. I told him yes. I asked him what they have on the menu. He told me to hold on. I was there waiting when I overheard him asking somebody what they have on the menu. I found it strange, then he told me he is going to call me back. I asked him what is the problem. He said the lady being unprofessional. I asked him what restaurant he is at and he told me. I was shocked because the restaurant always have a menu big and bold in the shop.
I asked him if they don’t have a menu showing and he got vex and hung up on me. On other occasions, he bring documents for me to read for him. He told me he likes to get second opinion on stuff. But Willie, this man cannot read and he is hiding it.
I like this man a lot but why is he hiding this from me? What else will he hide?
I am concerned. Please advise me.
Dear Miss: This sounds like an ignorant and potentially abusive man. Threatening to hit you twice (probably more) and you’re concerned about literacy? You sound like you knocked your head somewhere.
Sooner or later he is going to hit you.
I am not even concerned about whether he is literate or not, seeing (as you stated) he is a good listener and treats you kindly, but his abusive nature is what concerns me, and should concern you as well.
Probably, you made him feel uncomfortable in being honest with you. Not being able to read at his age, is very embarrassing, so if he feels that he is being mocked in anyway, he will not open up with you. However, his violent threats are of great concern.
Unconditional love means you accept and love the person for who they are. Yes, I have seen people dating others who can’t spell cat, living a healthy relationship. Once they understand each other and are there to help each other up, all is well. Plus, if he is willing to learn, even better.
But this goat does not sound like he is up to any challenge. If he is not willing to admit he can’t read, then he may very well kill you, if you offer to teach him.
Take my advice: try and run faster than Bolt out of this little ‘fat-vagina’ thing, you have going on with this man, because next time it may not be your vagina that will get fat, but your face from a beating.
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