My girlfriend called me “Shawn” while we were having sex

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Dear Willie: A few months ago I was having sex with my girlfriend and she called a guy’s name. I was immediately turned off and asked her who is Shawn.

She told me it is her coworker. She said it meant nothing and nothing was going on between them. So I asked her why of all the names it’s Shawn name she called. She said she speaks to him every day because he is a coworker.

I did not accept it. It led to the demise of the relationship because I could not get it out of my mind.

She is asking for a second chance, I love her a lot, but I don’t know if I should take her back.

Please help me. Thanks

Dear Sir: If that turned you off and caused the demise of your relationship, it’s best to move on. It will not go away, trust me. Once there is no trust in a relationship it is doomed.

I do find it suspicious that she would call another man’s name during sex. It just doesn’t add up.

I think you should take my advice and quit thinking about a second chance.

Willie

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54 comments

  1. Sometimes in daily life u end up calling a person a different name by mistake. For example I'd be talkin 2 friends n suddenly call them my sister's name because I see her all the time n she bothers me alot. So perhaps it was jus a slip of da tongue.

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    • It isn't an accident that happens during sex. That's different. If you call someone name that you have been intimate with (an Ex), that I would get as you were use to a certain thing. I find it suspicious as well.

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  2. Some people can really go through shit in their lives. Love yourself more than anyone else n send her to Shawn.

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  3. Your girlfriend or Shawn's girlfriend. Which one? Wake bro and smell the coffee

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  4. Lol smh at these comments though

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  5. Its not a nice thing to experience, the problem is people get carried away when there intimate, they should just have fun,
    enjoy and conceal the partner's name if it may cause, by the way if youre honest theres
    no way another mans name will be on your mind.

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  6. Cheups tun.

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  7. Breed her and send her for shawn let's see what shawn can handle

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  8. Gason if she calling another man's name just another woman's name too

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  9. Come on. How would the boyfriend think the girlfriend should treat him if he was the one who called some other woman's name? to end the relationship just because of that means, the girlfriend was very dispensable. i don't think that man loved his girlfriend. Women, please take note!

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  10. There is evidence to suggest that this is not an uncommon occurrence. Persons both male and female have been known to "call other names" during sex or at any other inopportune time. The name of a coworker or family member or any other individual may be at the fore front of the mind. Therefore it is not enough reason to cause the demise of a relationship. If there is other evidence leading to distrust okay, but simply this scenario is not enough.

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  11. #A Pimp Named Slick

    ghost!!!!OMG

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  12. man run run fast fast marathon time ran my G

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  13. Young man we all do shit but plz move on. Something is wrong somewhere n thats just the message. Shes cheating, do not accept her back.

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  14. NO RISK NO REWARDS.

    something is definitely not right here.as long as a woman would be calling another man's name during sex means that her feelings is going astray.you might not be doing something right in the sex part of the relationship and usually women would do that.they would fantasize about a next individual making love to them to spice up the sex and make them cum the way they would want to.they would make you feel that you are in charge but mentally they are not even in the picture with you.maybe she is sleeping with the other guy already or have intentions of doing so and is still in the relationship with you cause she wants to have her cake and eat it and she maybe eh get the right moment to leave you yet or sean could have his girlfriend already and she is contemplating her feelings.she could be in the relationship cause she is getting something else from you that she wants for the while and it is no longer about the sex with you two but she could only be sleeping with you still to cover up her tracks but that time when she fantasize about the other individual she just sold out herself and came up with a low excuse so you wont feel bad but apparently you still did.this is something that would turn anyone off,both male and female.it is a complete turn off and it will make you feel very low at the time.i think you should try to move on and face the harsh reality cause once there is a crack in the glass just know sooner or later it would completely break.hold strong brother.i rest my case.

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  15. my bot Shawn getting his share too,typical st.licia women love to share it around,and shawn woman giving it up too.

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  16. On another occasion I would agree with most comments, but sadly I've been in a situation where I called "de wrong name". At the time it wasn't funny, but I can surely laugh at it now, and chalk it up to one of life's "what not to do" experiences. My boyfriend at the time and I were having sex, and I unwittingly called out my ex's name. I can honestly say I wasn't thinking of him(the ex), neither was I cheating with my ex. I can only explaining it as a subconscious reaction as I'd been with the ex a long time and we'd ended the relationship on a bad note, so its not like I still wanted him. Obviously my bf at the time was upset and needless to say the one time we were gonna have the best sex he'd ever given, it went from very hot to chilling in a second. Calling the wrong name at the peak of pleasure is just not right(lol) At the time of calling the wrong name, I wasn't even aware of it.He called me out on it, accused me of cheating. Tried explaining why I think I did it, but given that he was already insecure, it didn't help. Again I have never cheated in any relationship. The relationship continued but ended after a while for other reasons. By the way many studies have shown that a huge percentage of men and women think of other people during sex.

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    • Well J there must be a reason why you would have called your ex's name during intercourse. He was there in your sub-concious so if you were not thinking of him perhaps the sex at the time with your boyfriend reminded you of what you had with the ex. "As he thinketh in his heart so is he" The mind is the gateway to all sorts of unwanted activities!

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  17. She is fantasising about Shawn wen you doing your ting.. If the chance arise she wont hesitate to give him the honey pot!

    run far away and don't turn back!!

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  18. Buddy do yourself a favor and just check a white girl, it's as simple as that.

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  19. Cause while havin sex with u.....she's thinkin of an other man (shawn)

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  20. maybe thats the name she will call her son if yall have a son.

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  21. She should have 'called you Tyrone'...lol. Drop that like a hot potato.

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  22. Hey Buddy, try calling another woman's name when making love to her. Start there and see where it leads. Its up to you however monitor how things go and always brace yourself for anything. Remember nothing lasts forever ,so then enjoy the moment to its fullest always

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  23. well my child father use to call me baby an then I find out he was callin his other woman baby to....lesson just enjoy ur fing and keep ur mouth shut

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  24. he or she who put their trust in their heart is a full,,,(proverbs)

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  25. Boe-tin business is what you'll be entertaining next. Tighten your shoe laces and RUN bruh

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  26. Boy what a shame u even thinking about going back. U should have slapped that and left right away.

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  27. Garcon, I definetly will not call you a genius.

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  28. Are you thinking of him while you loving me?

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  29. If she isn't sleeping with Shawn already she wants to.

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  30. whoops!!!!

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  31. My buddy just move on. I know the individual u said there and yes they have something together. Just be strong and everything else will be ok

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  32. Stop judging people .... allow things to fall into place

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  33. My bro my name is Sean and if it's u I causing pain so I'm sorry but do urself a favour and leave our ting alone...

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  34. Believe it or not that can be a normal thing but who can be the judge here if he had trusted his girlfriend to begin with he would believe her when she said it's nothing

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  35. Man you are a fool it makes better sense to change your name to Shawn.Lol

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  36. Shawn must be giving her good wood

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  37. Obviously she's having an affair with Shawn..

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  38. It may not be that she is cheating with the guy. She may be fantasizing about him.

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  39. I agree. Cheater alert!

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  40. Oh well I guess I have a problem with u to Willie coz from d time I was a kid my mom used to call my penis TI WILLIE an I have never gotten over that ting not being d gros pwel doctor when I read ur letters

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  41. please don't take her back. I know shawn. He is cute and sexy and looks like he hung too. Look for another girl cause shawn already eating your food better than you.

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  42. Next man name? Run.... Even if she is not having an affair with "Shawn" she is thinking too much about him and so she is not giving you all the attention you deserve. In other words she is fantasizing about "Shawn"... Trust me, been there done that!

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  43. I don't know why you all put your business online. You know well you will go back there because you in love and you are thinking about it. If not you would move on already. Just bear in mind that she is thinking of Shawn when making love to you. It is your heart you will do as you please anyway.

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  44. Its clear she is having an affair with shawn , whether they are having sex or not but is very clear that they have some kind of connection because to call somebody else name during intimacy is very serious.

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  45. Once bitten, twice shy. My two cents. The warnings are clear, son. Be warned!!

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