He is such a gentleman and I am happy to have him in my life. He is always there for me and treats me like royalty. I am in love with him but somehow I have always noticed some feminizing ways about him. And his friends tell me he is on the ‘down-low’.
Willie, his friends know him more than I do and I can’t help but believe them, but I find it difficult to let go. I love my man and good men are hard to find. I love him knowing that he is this way. I don’t want to leave my man although he doesn’t know that I am aware. What do I do?
Dear Miss: I certainly would not want a girlfriend like you. You’re in love with your man yet you’re believing his friends over him? Is that true love?
And are those really friends? How can they be his friends and they’re stabbing him in the back? I am sure they’re aware that what they tell you might influence his relationship with you negatively, yet still they went ahead. Those are not friends, those are ‘frenemies’.
If you’re truly in love with your man, if you are really a mature and good woman, you would communicate with your boyfriend about what you have heard, not be communicating with his friends. Are you in a relationship with his friends?
Miss you just upset me while I am eating this muffin and answering your letter. I suggest you find a source and identify the true meaning of friends and love because obviously you don’t know the meaning.
And this goes for some of my St. Lucian readers. Many of you allow outside forces to dictate the health of your relationships – your marriage, social and intimate relationships by what someone tells you.
Fake friends believe in rumours. Real friends believe in YOU. Not everything you hear is gospel truth. There are always two sides to a story. A man can be seen going out with a different female every night. It does not mean he is a womaniser. They probably do not have a sexual relationship.
I say this to mean, consult with the topic of this discussion: your boyfriend, not with anyone else.
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