My boyfriend broke up with me because of my attitude

My boyfriend broke up with me because of my attitude


Dear Willie:
My boyfriend and I broke up a little over a month ago. He broke up with me. He said it was my attitude.  But what female isn’t going to have an attitude?

We still talk and hang out, and he took me on a road trip with him. He said he needs space which I give him, but he calls me asking to hang out, and of course, I say yes. He said he wants to take things slow and see if we’ll get back together but I’m so hurt and sort of depressed. At times I don’t know if I should keep trying or just tell him you called it off so I’m not sticking around.

I just need some advice please. I can’t talk to my parents because if we do get back together they’ll make it difficult for me.

Dear Miss: Well, breaking news: everyone can exhibit an attitude. Some show it when pushed, some show it when they’re having a bad day, some people show it without being pushed, etc. If your attitude is getting to him then that’s the problem. Do you believe you’re miserable and you annoy him?

Men are known to dislike women who are miserable or fussy. We hate nagging.

Well, show him you can change. At the time same, don’t allow him to use you because he might end up breaking your heart worst.

Willie 

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16 COMMENTS

  1. Sometimes we are too judgemental. The gentleman, while he did break things off he is asking to take things slow, and still extends himself to the lady suggesting he is still into you. It may be genuine that he needs space (women ask for space all the time) to think about himself and the relationship.
    Probably the lady does have an attitude problem. The thing is assessing you own attitude may not be the best thing, ask for an outside opinion to see if you really have a problem. Ask him as well what it is you do that is bothering him. It takes 2 to be in a relationship and both of you need to sit and discuss this in depth. If he is meant to be with you he will. Just don't rush. By hanging out those questions can be resolved in a relax manner where there are not commitments or outside forces to consder

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    • We have been together for 2 years, (My longest relationship)He has a problem with my grumpy morning attitude as in his friends who have stolen my stuff and my relationship with my mom. But I realized what I did and changed amazingly! but he still doesn't care. He still will kiss me but he doesn't love me anymore. which he told me last week. what can i say or do? and if it doesn't work out how do i get my stuff back? I have a key but no car and don't want it to seem like i broke in. I just want to forget if it never works out even though i love him more than anything in my life, other than my family and dog.

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      • Some time the reason why we females or nagging. ...the man does not give us the full attention...he is all about frenz and full of excuse. ..we love them so much ..at the end they don't change to please. ..female have attitude base on the man

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        • Yes agree my ex never gave me any attention and was emotional abusing me. Glad to be away from that horrible experience . He was also played mind games

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  2. The fact the he asked for a break because of your attitude calls for introspection. You are probably still struggling with issues of your past. Past situations may affect our behavior directly and indirectly. You may be aggressive or rude when there is no need to be or ignore what is important and need immediate attention.

    You should take this time out to heal and grow; make peace with who you are. It is true that a good relationship is a treasure but a healthy relationship can only happen with a good attitude.

    Take time out and start growing... TODAY!!

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  3. I had a gf like that. I talked to her about it everyday but it was no use. Everything was perfect but her attitude just sucked no matter what. Sad...considering that there was so much potential.

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  4. Count yourself lucky I say!! People break up and life goes on , move on from this relationship if it isn't working. It makes no sense for either of you staying in a relationship that you are not happy with. On the other hand stop being there to be used by this man the relationship has ended concentrate on your life rather than being his plaything. I always think of breaking up in the same way as dropping a diamond ring down the toilet, once I hit the flush button I can never have the diamond ring back. Same with any relationship that has ended, once it's done it's done.move on to better things.

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  5. I am a young woman . What I have realized in relationships if two people are meant to be the relationship will not hold. In addition, you must have one mind set,. First, learn how to love and appreciate yourself. Take time off from this relationship see why you are always irritated. Learn to love yourself first.

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  6. maybe he is not the only one who thinks u have an attitude problem. if ur family is going to give u a hard time if they find out,then they too think u have an attitude problem. u need to check urself.

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  7. A woman with an attitude is very unattractive and no guy is going to stick around if you do exhibit such. A woman with an attitude does not attract compliments from her guys friends or family. You see Dear, some things in life deserve a rain check and if you are not going to work on your attitude....take a rain check.

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  8. You will learn.. unnecessary attitude is annoying and that is the problem...u know how irritating that is...check yourself... that will drive any man away

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