Dear Willie: I’ve been dating this guy for about seven months now. Everything was going great: the dinners, the movies, the long phone calls. We were totally into each other. One thing led to another and we finally did what big people do.
The first time we did it, I got three strokes and he was dead, so I didn’t bother. I thought maybe after waiting so long, he was a little too excited. So we cuddled for a little while to rest. The second round: We tried a different position, this time I got half a stroke and he was dead. I knew he felt bad and I tried to comfort him. He said this has never happened before. Days after we tried and it was just two to three strokes and he died.
He decided to make a doctor’s appointment to see if he has a problem. He told me the doctor said: “Nothing is wrong with you, maybe you can’t handle the whine”.
I tried to find solutions and stuck by him because I really cared about him. He slowly became distant. He avoided my calls. When finally I got him one day, his friend answered and said to me, “You doh see the man doh want you you B****…” I was shocked. I hung up the phone and cried my heart out.
Willie what should I do? Forget about him? Or should I try to show him I’m willing to stay with him and work things out.
Dear Miss: You have nothing more to prove to this man. You have already showed him that you truly care for him.
The fact that he allowed his friend to get involved and disrespect you in that way, is enough proof that this man does not belong in your life.
I understand his frustration. And it IS A FACT that some men distance themselves from females out of self-pity when they feel “inadequate” in the bedroom or otherwise. At some point in time, every man will go through what he is going through, but maturity and understanding always prevails.
I hope no one makes fun of this situation, especially the men. Today, your willy is hard and sturdy, and tomorrow it might deflate like a balloon.
I am also a bit disturbed by the doctor’s response, if that statement is true. I would love to know who this doctor is. Please inbox me his/her name.
Anyway, young lady, find a new man who not only stays “alive” but has some respect. You may not find him overnight, but you sure seem to be a good woman for sticking around.
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