Dear Willie: I have been in a relationship for over two years with this amazing guy. He treats me how a man is supposed to, he polishes my
toes, straighten my hair, massages me, brings me out, comes to see me every day, sleep home sometimes…the whole package. Anything I want, but the problem is that he is still living with his children’s mother.
We both know of each other but obviously don’t agree. She would come to my work place with other coworkers to watch me. I discussed that with the man and it stopped. Not too long ago he was involved in an accident in which he was close to losing his life, but managed to make it out okay.
Whilst he was at hospital, every day I would go to see him and she would be there, but that didn’t stop me. In private I spoke to him and told him that if he was feeling uncomfortable with the whole situation and want it to stop, I will let it stop. Although I love him, I was willing to let him go. He told me no, he would never leave me for anyone.
He has promised to be with me and to come live with me as soon as he gets better, but deep down I feel as though that’s not going to happen and every time I tell him that, he tells me that things do happen in life. We talk on the phone every day but I do miss his company, because I can’t get to see him.
He keeps telling me to wait on him but the way I feel is as though he is playing happy family and am kicked to the side because I don’t think she knows that we still speak. I ask him what does he really want from me because I am confused about the whole situation. He just tells me we will talk when we see.
Please advise me. I need help. What should I do? Am I really waiting on false hope.
Dear Miss: Both you and the other woman are foolish. Don’t you see this man is taking you for a fool? And do you realise he rarely gives you a straight answer? He has been feeding you bull– mixed with ice cream for two years. Haven’t you tasted the bull– in all this?
I have an important question. What’s your real role in this “relationship”? Is it a jabal (side woman role) or the ‘main’ girlfriend role?
I do not believe you’re his girlfriend. Maybe in your head, you are his girlfriend, but based on the info provided, you’re the side chick. You’re like his substitute.
No serious or sensible man will still be living with his ex when he meets a new serious girlfriend. Think about it. Why is he still living with his baby mother?
A lot of men take a lot of women here for joke because the women continue to allow it. It takes common sense to know you’re being fed bull–.
The good treatment is just a tactic to keep you because no sensible woman would have stuck by him so long. He makes you emotionally dependent on him. That’s a female weakness.
You deserve better my lady. Either he shape up, or you leave him alone.
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