Willie, I had been seeing this guy for exactly one year. The sex was out of this world. The good times were just overwhelming but sadly during that time he was in a relationship. Not only was he supposed to be committed, he also had a baby on the way and could use the extra freak that he was not getting at home.
Willie, it would happen any time of day, indoors, outdoors; we just did not care… the vibe was good! It was supposed to be convenience for me. I specifically told him “it’s when I want” but it then became a demand from him. I still gave in being the spontaneous freak that I am and I truly developed feelings for him that I saw would be jeopardized.
Willie, I ended the relationship in January of this year and remained celibate to this day. I see him off and on casually walking/driving pass, or when I go to town I often see him around and we chat, simple, basic talk.
I recently learned that he got married and he denied it, so I did my homework and found it to be true. The evidence was even on his person, concealed, but imprinted in his back pocket. Though being married, his advances are sometimes outrageous and I do my best to avoid him.
Willie, I need your advice on how I should approach this because I do not want to embarrass him. He has been good to me but I have said to him before that I am done. I am really over the quickies and good times.
A confused woman
Dear Confused Woman: While inhaling some greens after my Eye Candy pics failed to surpass 200 likes before 7 p.m., your letter arrived as the bright spark I needed in this dull day.
I was quite entertained. I was tempted to submit an application to replace your friend.
Anyway, onto serious business. I really do not understand why you’re confused. You said you’re over him and the quickies and good times, so what are you confused about?
You do not want to embarrass him? But he embarrassed you, by lying to you. By marrying someone else, he obviously did not want you in the first place. That was evidence that he only wanted you for sex. His wife fulfills his other needs.
I am also happy that you’re not accusing him of using you, because you were up for it, and you got it. But how can you sleep with a man whose expecting a child?
Anyway, before you shoo him away, understand this: you gave the man some real good-good, so the dog he is, won’t just change overnight. He will want more.
Now that you understand that, the next thing to do is raise the level of your warnings. Start out by telling him straight that you’re not interested anymore and he should respect his marriage; if he persists, then threaten to tell his wife (she probably knows about you), or take the matter to the law, and continue to avoid him. He will stop eventually when you stop entertaining his crap.
By the way, keep up the talented freak shows when necessary but please, for God’s sake, find your own/single man next time or you will be writing more stories like these. I applaud you for that celibacy plan, but please know that freak shows alone don’t win men (food for thought).
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