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Man wants to get rid of pregnant girlfriend

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Dear Willie: I am in a nine-year relationship with my girlfriend. We have a four-year-old son and she is pregnant again, but I have lost all feelings towards her.

I asked her to break up on many occasions but she refuses to leave.

I met this gorgeous girl where am working. It started as a fling but now it’s getting serious. When I told her I have a son, she looked disappointed. Now I don’t know how to tell her am having another child.

Willie should I tell her and how should I say it? Next question, am I being bad because am getting serious with someone else?

Dear Sir: I swear if you were close to me I would paste my belt on your back. Are you serious? You’re dumping your pregnant girlfriend for another woman? She hasn’t even given birth yet. That’s evil.

How would you feel if she dumped you for another man?

Anyway, you said your feelings are no longer there for your girlfriend, but bro the grass is not always greener on the side so please think about your actions carefully.

I believe you should also remain honest with this new “crush”. Also bear in mind, most coworker-relationships end in disaster.

And yes, you’re being bad for planning to dump your girlfriend in her state.

Willie.

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56 comments

  1. Ok he wants to pursue this new relationship with the new girl she seemed disappointed he had a child will she even be welcoming to that child just imagine the 2nd one. I get you are not happy but y have sex and get her pregnant he needs to really sit and think

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  2. Please take care of yourself and that unborn child, do the right thing all of us make mistake you got caught up in the moment, dont be miserable and stay in a relationship, move on apologize to that woman raise your kids and be the best father you can. Dont make the same mistake do not have sex with someone you have no feelings for remember you would not like it to happen to any of your female relative be a man and take responsibility for what you did in the end it will all work out.

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    • are you serious!? miss gee?
      man you have to make the feeling come back, like willie said the grass in not greener on the other side. i am a guy, i was in your same situation. i regret it... i'm married now, to another... trust me bro, same ting different woman. he difference is how you deal with it. it is easy to get another woman but it eh easy to keep on, that take effort,(love) and your feelinf will go no where if you apply that love. Seek God in your heart. trust me bro.. you will loose feeling for all other women when you get them, ask those round-a-round guys..

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  3. you know this is an all too familiar story. the woman is young and nice with no kids and she is a goddess, you'll get friendly and she gives you kids, her body, her life and now she is an evil witch that you can stand just because you find another goddess. relationships are meant to grow, how many women do you see leaving their men just because they getting bald or their belly getting big etc, come on men , we women need youll to stand up for us and be the king that we need. women have to go through twice the shit that men go through in a lifetime and most of them do it with grace, putting aside their feelings just to accommodate youll and yet still as youll feelings are always the ones getting youll to do some foolish things. that being said we have some wonderful men out there.

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  4. Didn't he kno that he didn't wnt her b4 he had sex with her and sperm inside of her...... Man step up n tke hold of ur damn responsibilities you don't even deserve to be called a man mre like a little boy

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  5. As for the asshole that said she choose to bring another child in to an already broken relationship... Some ppl must really b 4 gtin it tkes two to mke a baby... And for this guy ure a DAMN FOOL.... KARMA sweetyy KARMA

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  6. u no longer have feelings and u had sex with her without condom. As a man and a dad who almost went thru the same ting. Don't diss your children mother for a fling. If you gonna leave ensure you support her thru her pregnancy and take care of your children. Also support her cause if she miserable your kids will turn out miserable and bad. Then support the other girl. Your children, their mother then you girl. Be smart don't plug yuor new girl.

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  7. As bad as this sounds, we all know that we should NOT remain in relationships where we are unhappy, whether or not there are children involved. I've seen all kinds of consequences, including the loss of one's mental health - it is therefore NOT advisable. That being said, I hope the guy in this scenario is doing everything in his power to salvage the relationship. We always think it's better out there, but we fail to remember the stability and synergy that was built up over continued interaction. Now... You're gonna have to start from scratch if you let this go and begin a new relationship. And who knows? It doesn't work out and you're going into another and another until you wake up one day and wonder what the hell happened with your life. Sort out your issues. Separate for a while if you need the time. We have too many people existing in relationships where they're very unhappy - and you know what? The kids feel it.

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  8. omg.. i hate men. I feel sorry for this pregnant girl

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  9. Oh pls with your crap. U ask her to break up and she said no. We both know if u wanted to.leave to would and should have. It was better that way than now that she is pregnant. Plus 9 years u selfish bastard. Do u know how much patience that takes. Trust me I have 10. U ready to leave because of so call gorgeous don't u think your baby mama had options too. Yes I'm sure she did but she stayed with your useless selfish ass. The grass isn't always greener. If it is its because the owners take care of it. Try taking care of your grass and it will b green too asshole.

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    • well said., except for the strong language.
      I am a guy, the grass is the same everywhere, it is how you keep it...right now i'm fertilizing my lawn and i just put up a huge sign
      "NO WALKING ON THE GRASS"

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    • your comment id the best one out here. you made so much sense. this guy is a selfish bastard. after you get bored of her and ruined her body her birthing your kids! now youre bored??? why don't you try to channel what made you fall in love with her in the first place. and the bitch at your job is just being entertained at work. all women like to be praised doesn't mean she would ever take you serious. take care of the woman that loves you and has sacrificed for you! and YOU be the one to leave and take care of your kids! coward

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  10. I commend you for seeking advice. Have you evaluated the situation? Why don’t you have feelings for her anymore? Have you both sat down and have a talk about it? Express your feelings. Are there things that she does that annoy you? Let her know. Let her know how she makes you feel when she does X, Y or Z. Do not blame. Sometimes we (male and female) act certain ways and are not aware of how it makes others feel. Maybe she too is tired of you but will stay in the relationship for the sake of the kids. You’ve been together for nine years. Why did you remain in the relationship this long? What first attracted you to this woman… find that again. Work on you, love yourself, find positivity in everything and watch how she changes for the better. Don’t expect her to change. Expectations equal disappointments. . Usually when we find fault with a person it basically means that there’s something we need to work on within us.

    Think... what if you leave her. Do you know the amount of stress you will bring on yourself? Child Support, maybe you won’t get to see your kids etc… or maybe you get with this new chick and she may be much worse than your current girlfriend.

    Use your current situation to help you develop yourself. I believe everyone has good in them.

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  11. There is a pricipality aspect of Love which we forget. Love is not all about butterflies in your stomach. Love is not selfish. Sadly you have impacted your girl friends life. Her body has literally been thrown into your relationship. I would also understand her body has changed and is maybe not attractive as ur co-worker. but it is all as a result of a relationship you two agreed to. Love also calls for sacrifice like what Jesus did for us. love your girlfriend as yourself. forgive her trespasses as you would want yours to be forgiven. Its not that you don't Love her again, cuz u would have been long gone. you have just lost the butterflies in your stomach.

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  12. boi men jus cant make it no matter what side of the coin they fall on in a situation

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  13. you're willing to let a nine year relationship go down the drain?... as the matter of fact u shud be happy that you have a woman who is willing to stay with u despite ur countless attempts of asking her to break up. you're being very selfish in this matter. If u do make this decision to be with this other woman keep in mind that karma is a bitch.I feel for your girlfriend.

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  14. Sometimes people fall out of love...9 years is a long time....But if you really had no feelings left for her she would not be pregnant...She didn't rape you to have this baby...This new flirt is just a phase...you're looking for an excuse to have fresh meat. A reason to be be ok with sleeping with someone else....Ask yourself if you foresee this new chick doing 5 years with you...at least 5. Support your baby mama....I'm not saying that you have to stay in the relationship if you're not happy (BUT THE LEAST YOU CAN DO IS STOP SLEEPING WITH HER)and just be a father to your kids...UNLESS you want to have a third child in a "no feelings relationship".....The grass isn't always greener on the other side....It's green where you water it.

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  15. Do your kid's mother a favor and leave. She doesn't need rubbish like you around. It may be hard for her now but in the long run she'll be glad that you left. I pity the kids though. But then again, with a mentality like yours, they too will be better off without you.

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  16. I suspect the bulk of the peeps commenting are females, the same females who would be telling a woman to not stay in an unfulfilling relationship, i guess the rules are different for men lol? For those who ask the dude to man up, he has manned up by asking the woman to leave, how do we know the pregnancy was caused by him, its not like women dont cheat and its unheard of men being made fathers of kids they didnt spawn? Also who says you have to stay in a shitty situation to play your role as a parent? My dude do what you think will bring you happiness and pay no mind to theses females who love projecting this false morality on us, for all you know you might be getting horned, also you are the one walking in your shoes so tell the condescenting voices to go boot the wall..

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    • Sorry bro i have to totally disagree with you on every account and letter. I'm a guy, the grass isn't greener on the other side. the reelationship is shitty because shit is in it, he should get rid of his shit and the relationship will not be shitty,, you should try it too...he has to man up and stopping messing up!! or for yours words shitting up.. he will do the same to this new woman, it is flirting... flirtiing is not serious, when it does she will thionk or he will think it is shitty..
      hey i too was in a relationship like that,,, if i had to do it again,, i will stay with my baby mama,, fertilize my grass, mow, rake it, plant flowers on the edge and most of all put up a sign..
      "STAY OFF THE LAWN" BEWARE OF THE OWNER"

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      • oH me again.. for every action there is a reaction, careful with your actions caused they determine the reaction

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  17. You are not are a very good person. Hopefully your baby mother will end up being with someone better than you. You will go from relationship to relationship judging by your letter to Willie. Also your child mother deserves better than you.

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  18. Okay feelings towards a mate do go away all the way,by that i mean u no longer have feelings emotionally and sexually for her.Yet you are sleeping with her. What part of your feelings that went away. She dont want to leave why can't your selfish ass leave.You don't want her yet you having sex with her isn't that sending her mix messages. Like Willy said the grass is not always greener on the other side. After 9 yrs you lost feelings for her so you say, so what make you believe you won't feel the same way when your infatuation with this new fling gets stale.Man grow up,take your head out your a**. Start thinking with your brain and not your d**k

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  19. Stupid Chauvinist pig!!!!!!

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  20. Roast your nuts and eat them and tell us how they taste.

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  21. I'm not goin to tell u stay with a woman u have no feelings for but u shouldn't just jump into another relationship

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  22. I understand that he may have lost feelings for her and wanted to break up for whatever reason but if that's truly the case then how do u explain the pregnancy? Ure obviously still intimate with the person u have "no feelings for". And just like u said, the thing with the co worker started off as a fling, so that's what it would always remain JUST A FLING! She knows u hv 1 kid n was disappointed, do u think she'll jump for joy when she finds out that u lied about the one on the way? Man grow up n smell the coffee. Ure man enough to cheat then be man enough n own up to it. Ssssnake!

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  23. This woman has no self respect, self confidence nor self esteem. A man tries to break it off with you on more than one occasion yet you refuse to leave and to further exacerbate the situation, you choose to bring another child into an already broken relationship? Wow. Why on earth would you ever want to be with someone who clearly no longer wants you, child or no child. I will never be able to wrap my head around that thought process. If someone tells me they no longer want to be with me one time,they wouldn't need to say it twice. At least the guy is being honest about his feelings rather than stringing her along. We need to accept that people do not choose to feel or don't feel what they do. Feelings can't be coerced. Parents need to understand that they are able to play a meaningful role in their child or children's lives in the absence of a relationship. This guy should own up to his responsibility as a father but also have the freedom to pursue his happiness. Those who allude to the shade of green of the grass on the other side, try to walk a mile in someone's shoes before you judge their actions. Its no fun being in a relationship with someone you have no feelings for. You just can't make yourself feel what you don't.

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    • I'm shame with your comments.. does not mean that she has low self esteem.. it makes you sound like a woman, if you are or not... whose feels that she in "INDEPENDENT" and need no man. So your advice her to pick up another? This is a real woman, she may be trying to fix it, he is saying that she refuse,, well i think he refuses if even if he wants too, he has low self esteem, needs more than one woman to make him feel wanted!!!! shame on him too...
      Oh!!! i am a man .. sorry a male, do not want you to interpret man wrong.. just saying that i am male.. i am man. i have a woman..lol

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  24. I understand d man,,,,he asked her to break up,,mayb for many reason,,n she's not breaking up,,she refuses to leave,,so he finds another woman,,I understand he has to stand by his pregnant woman,,,but sumtimes wen d relationship isn't wukin ,,we jus av to leave

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  25. No feeling for her , so how the hell she pregnant. Now the cow pregnant you want to run,stay and take care of doings

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  26. Now that is what I consider a first class asshat.... let's see if the grass really is greener, or if its just painted to look green

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  27. Is this jerk for real? U need more than a few slaps of belt u need a swift kick in your nuts. I pity your gf but I pity u most. This woman has given u 9 years, has stood by u, is a mother to your kids and this is your loyalty to her? U are pathetic and sad! Go ahead see what's out there hope u don't regret your choices. If this flirt has half a brain in her head she would run the other way but no, she's gonna entertain u knowing she is only added fuel to the fire. I hope your gf musters the strength God have her and walk away from u..she deserves to be treated like a queen not your option nor convience.

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  28. urgh! smh nah man dahh deh nuh rite

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  29. I can't say much but I do believe being in a relationship with someone whom u have no feelings for make no sense, but if the woman is caring your unborn child the best thing to do is stick around until the child is born and be a man and let the other woman know what kind of baggage you carry around.

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  30. Wow willie that was bold hope he mans up.smh

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  31. Wtf man link me with ur baby mama i will take care of the kids for u . Plp like u need to be left alone no heart

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  32. 9 years. The mother of your children yet you are ready to dump her because of another woman. Do you really know this other woman? Why don't you settle down and get married and make a more stable environment for your children. It's not always about feelings.

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  33. U r nothing but a selfish bastard. Am so disgusted,wicked man tje tables will turn.

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  34. Why sleep with her if you do not want to be with her or want a child with her. You are being very selfish and should let the women make decisions based on the truth not lies. Grow up!

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  35. I believe the reason you have lost all feeling for this girl u have been with for so long, its because u have feeling for your new girl. There's a saying that goes ' that to get over one you must get under another. To. Be able to help with this situation a few questions would have to be answered to determine the cause of you not having no more feelings for your gf. Your new girl u should bring it to her attention that your childs mother is pregnant again. So all in all the feelings haven't fully gone cuz u are still sleeping with your childs mother. I suggest u be the bigger person and say truly how it is . Currently the feelings between u and your childs mother is not mutual. Speak to her but now is not the time to bring up the topic. Do that after the baby is born. And also let her know u are seeing someone else although u shouldn't currently U are in a very vulnerable position and u need to think about whether you are doing the right thing by cheating on your childs mother. Remember what goes around it always comes back around
    " to get over one u have to get under another".

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  36. This man is a selfish bastard who will get what's coming to him.

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  37. U dirty u not a good man wanting to live ur gf 4 other woman.Never live what u have for what u just get

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  38. Oh really dumping your baby mama for another Bro what goes around comes around in due time and yours will be worst remember that!!!

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  39. Don't get stuck in relationships that bring you little or no satisfaction. You are not married and this is not the 60's. If you leave her there will be no bolt of lightning from up above to smite you down. Get an abortion my friend and be on your merry way. Oh...and another thing....use a rubber next time or just abstain. Caribbean women do not give their loving for free; sex is a costly business these days. I reckon my comments will generate plenty of "thumbs down" but I say it as it is. You've been warned.

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    • You say as it is but people like you never get any good in life then you wonder why things are going so bad for you but it is because of your evil ways. Watch and you will see, go on carry on being bold see where it takes you .

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    • Do the men give their loving for free? You say it as it is, well that mouth of yours will get you in some trouble one day.

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    • Anon, people like you need to be kept in a cell. keep your foolish views to yourself.Why would you advise the man to get an abortion?...pure BS

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    • Oh it is not as it is, you aid it as you want it to be. trust me he would wish a bolt of lightening had struck him. The relationship does not have satisfaction cause he did not bring it in, he lost it.. man grab a Bible and read and learn...God works...
      oh you can abstain like anon suggested.. it makes you grow,, big muscles...

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