When we just met I did not like him in any way whatsoever. Matter of fact, I would say bad things about him to my friends. After a year and a couple months speaking to him on a daily basis, I started growing feelings towards him and everyday my love for him grew stronger and stronger.
I can recall that two weeks after we met he told me that he is married but he and his wife does not live together and they are no longer together. I believed him.
After a year and couple months, I got to know from a friend that he is married for true and he is living with his wife. When I got to know this I felt like I would’ve gotten a heart attack. I confronted him about it and he admitted that he was living with his wife, but he then said that he was trying to tell me that but he didn’t want to break my heart – which he did anyways.
Since I found out about him living with his wife, he keeps telling me that he loves me more than his wife, but he is waiting for her to do something wrong so he can leave. Everyday I ask him: “if you are not happy with her and I treat you better than her why must you wait for her to leave?” and all he says is “darling it’s not easy, God wants us to be together.”
And it’s so funny that I love this man so much that I would get angry when he don’t pick up my calls. I try everything in my power to push him away but I always go back to him. I don’t even care about his wife anymore. This says how much love I have for him. He can’t pick up his phone when his wife is around.
I don’t want a relationship like this. I don’t know what to do this no more. The good part is I never gave him sex but yet it’s hard to move on. Please help!
Dear Miss: You sent this letter exactly a month ago. We are only answering it now because we respond to letters based on the order they are being received.
I am hoping that you still have not had sex with this player of a married man. I also applaud you for not having sex with him for such a long time.
I am also happy that you discovered he lied to you. You should have severed the communication/relationship from that time.
I always tell females never to fall for the excuses of married men. It is usually a ploy to get into the pants of “something new and fresh”. Unless they can show you proof that they are divorced or in the process of a divorce, I would urge all women to stay far. Excuses such as they no longer love their wives, not living with their wives, or they are in the process of divorce, are stop signs.
He probably loves you more than his wife now because he is tired of her. But always remember this: the fact that he can betray his wife means he has the potential to do you the same thing.
What really disturbed me is when he told you that he is waiting for his wife to mess up for him to leave. This is evil and should have been an additional wake up call to leave this man alone. This means his wife is not the problem because as he is WAITING for her to do something wrong. Pick sense out of that.
I can assure you that his wife most likely fell in love with him for the same reasons you have fallen in love with him. And look at where his marriage is at now. Also remember there are two sides to a story. He is telling you all these negative things about his marriage, and you no longer care about his wife, but you would be surprised that he is the one not pulling his weight in the relationship.
Miss just leave the man alone. If you want to continue entertaining him, it is your business. But when you get hurt again and again, don’t write Willie.
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