Long distance relationship is hard for man to commit to

Long distance relationship is hard for man to commit to

Dear Willie: I’ve been in a long distance relationship since my girl went to study in Taiwan. We’ve been together for six years and she went away for two years now. She hasn’t come down since because the airfare is expensive.

Now I am a loyal guy, but it takes a lot of commitment to be faithful in a long distance relationship. I have been so far, but it’s hard. What do I do?

Dear sir: Long distance in a relationship is one of the hardest trials of commitment to someone. The solution is always to be faithful. If you cannot tolerate the urges be honest with her about it before you do anything.

Or you and her can agree to be in an open relationship and be honest about.

Willie.

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  1. I am in a long distance relationship and I have been faithful and will keep on being faithful until my baby comes home. and I know he is committed also we are always on Skype we call each other plus text, we keep the romance alive. I love him to bits and will never cheat. long distance relationship can work if you are committed.

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  2. Hats off to you sir...two years without intimacy on a woman is tough to say the least; let alone on a man. You didnt say how much longer she will be gone though. I think you both need to ask yourself some tough questions. You guys aren't married nor have kids (assumption)and this contributes to the ease of which the relationship can be dissolved by either party as you dont have the ties that typically bind married couples to each other. Needless to say life is unpredictible; she may meet someone new or may have already. The relationship may not be the same upon her return if she does decide to that is. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder or out of sight out of mind...all depends on the strength of your relationship. My advice...have no expectations and therefore you will have no disappointments.

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  3. the good thing is that you not married.. distance relationship....? there is no such thing,,lies! just lies!

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  4. this is a tuff situation...first consider the fact that the 2 of u hav already been together for 6yrs. that's already a commitment. do u want to just throw all of that away?? jus hv to talk to your girl, be honest. if she accuses u, or doesn't understand what u are goin thru, try more dialog. but u will get an idea of her feelings if u talk to her and hear her response.

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  5. "Anon" I agree I am sure his girl is exploring!!Most women in this 21 st century don"t have high morals like before.

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  6. It's funny how we give negative advice based on our "bad" experiences instead of giving positive advice. Of course it is not easy to stay committed in a long distance relationship because while you wait, you will have a million questions coming to your mind especially questioning if you're doing the right/smart thing.

    Like Willie said, be open with her about your feelings. Also, try to come up with a resolution TOGETHER. Six years is a lot of commitment already. All the best.

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  7. LOL, boy I went away n study too, sorry bbut NO WOMAN will not stay so long and do nothing unless she is some angel and hates sex. Even the seven days did their thing. Guess what coincidentally am in Taiwan now, buddydo yur ting but let dem girls know dat u have yur woman in Taiwan. simple

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  8. ras, all i can say is this a leap of faith on your part, school is usually a rough time where people explore all sorts of ways of dealing with their stress. so while you sitting there waiting for her she might have already found your replacement. Especially if you are not on that educational level....now i know this comment will get enough thumbs down, but how many dudes have found themselves in that very situation only for the woman to move on once her time in school ends???? so be wise and not commit too much or at least don't sit around stressing yourself while the chick might be riding a fat one as we speak. so let those who live in LALA Land advise you about eh merits of being faithful and showing your love, yada yada ,etc but the reality is much different

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    • not everyone is the same... when it comes to love sacrifices have to be made.... if he truly love her, he will wait... to much diseases out there....in the end if she chose to be the unfaithful one, she will get wants coming to her,,, life is a cycle...if he wants to cheat then break up the relationship, simple ,,, because seems to me , if people don't sex for a little while they with die... choops tan...

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  9. Boy don't stay in dat long distance relationship.at the end up. U will end up like me.hurt.my child mom cheated on so many occasion,its not a good think.you will end up with a gwo pwell jus let dat go.I kno what am talking about.

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  10. Hi as hard as it is u'll have an agreement,in the event that u reach a point where u can not Handle it anymoreb honest with her,speak about it,because communication n honesty is key.yes u might've believed u could n it turns out its harder be honest with her especially if u know u hv a gud girl

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  11. I commend you for this effort, wemen are stronger than men in holding them selves for long periods of time, she is studying on a scholarship I believe the last thing she is doing is tasting and testing "asian balls" stay with your woman, be honest with her tell her you are committed to her but its hard, do what u feel you need to do to relieve your self trust me man the wait is surely worth it,she went to further her education that's a plus for you and her, think of the future you sound like a dignified guy do the honourable thing, like one writer wrote there is watts app, facebook, skype plenty of avenues to explore to help ypu relieve ypurself. Ypu will get in a relationship with a new person you run the risk ofbeing a baby daddy and losing your girl. Hope you are able to make the correct decision all the best mate.another suggestion ypou can enroll in a course do some stydying online to keep your mind. Penn foster.com, alison.com are a few places you can do online courses.

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    • Wow for real? Well it seeems that the dudes who cheat are all gay lol i laugh when women say this loll if men are cheating they are cheating mostly with women, women who are the wives and girlfriends of other dudes. So stop that feel good statement and face the realities that we cheat at the same rates!!!!

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  12. good job being faithful shouldn't be about her it should be about you and what you stand for. it is a challenge that could be done successfully. If you value your relationship then do what it takes. you could even explore tele-sex the two of you, and masturbation is also an other option. think of it how would you feel knowing that you lead another woman on only to break her heart just to get sex whiles your woman is away. would you like someone to make a fool of you in that way. be strong and avoid persons who would not encourage you in your efforts to be true to yourself.

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  13. I will say honesty is key. Dont get carried away focus on what u have built. I am a woman n have been in the same situation. I stayed away for 4 years n s half. We hadnt seen each other for two and a half years. It was very frustrating. Now that i have my degree and back on island we are still in a relationship. Never quit if u r willing to try and you are positive that this is what you both want. Goodluck

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  14. If it was me I would do my thing but with no strings attatch, with all them beautiful women in st Lucia? I will have to use a few of them and get my releaf, hahaha, dwl.

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  15. I commend this Man. Treat her the way you would want to be treated in this relationship or u will regret it

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  16. Bro stay committed she went to better the future for you both don't allow temptation to take over you.you have skype watsapp and all those technology to keep her close

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  17. I was in a similar situation and you know what I did...I explored. Don't try to do the impossible (unless you're married of course)...I'm sure your girl is "exploring" this very minute . If you were in her shoes wouldn't you want to savour some Taiwanese delicacy? LOL

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  18. Man, you should get yourself a "blow-up" doll and enjoy your many nights of passion. It's a " win-win" cause it keeps your "Loyalty" intact and your woman happy.

    On the flip side, she could be enjoying some Asian meat, with all kinds of nuts bursting in her sweet, sweet, sugar walls, lol 🙂

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