After 15 years in a relationship I feel exhausted. Why? It’s because I do every single thing alone. I have to wash the dishes, do the laundry, do the cleaning, prepare his breakfast, prepare food for him to go work, and prepare dinner. In fact, I do all the work and he sits there and continues to leave the place in a mess. It’s exhausting. Everyday after working so hard I have to come back home to work like a slave. I complain about it but nothing is being done.
Furthermore, I will do anything for my boyfriend. I treat him good. I always buy him presents for every occasion: birthday, Valentines and Christmas. And I only get a gift once in a while on my birthday. He don’t give me money. He never sends me on a shopping spree. He never spoils me. I pay for everything I own as well as my bills. His main contributions are the groceries and sex.
My salary is more than his, but there are simple things you can do to make a woman see you care. At least one day tell me rest and do all the chores.
Dear Miss: Interestingly you stated: “He never spoils me”. The problem here is, YOU ‘spoil’ the man.
And 15 years and he hasn’t put a ring on it?
You need to sit this man down and tell him your concerns and if he does not want to listen you must do something about it. Either you cut back on your gifts and chores or you kick him out the house, or leave. Simple.
A lot of men out there are looking a woman like you. He is too comfortable. Start the communication process and/or the cutting-back process.
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