Life had been very stressful and I started to feel lonely and depressed so I turned to a friend, who is a lesbian, with my problem. I told her my situation and how life was and we spoke on and off over the phone.
I saw her in person, she tried helping out with my situation and tried to comfort me. But then she slept over one night and that’s when she kissed me. It felt strange at first but I kissed her back, then she came on to me, and one thing led to another.
My feelings grew more and more towards her and hers did as well. I decided to break it off with my guy knowing I have been abused and cheated on enough, but when I tried telling him I saw that he was showing me a different side – that he cared. The abusing stopped and he was paying more attention. I don’t know whether it was fake or not, but he changed to my eyes.
I had already fallen out of love with him. I’m confused whether I should tell him it’s over and move on with my life with a different sex (female) or give him a chance to prove himself.
Let this guy go about his business. Six years of abuse and cheating? Got three women pregnant while he was with you and he wants to turn saint overnight?
Miss, trust me on this, that’s how many men are. They always try to change when they realize the women are moving on. It’s a tactic to keep you under his abusive regime. He will not change. This good behavior period will last for a short while when he is convinced you will stay with him.
He has had six years to prove himself and he failed. I believe six years was too much.
You would be foolish to go back with him. Just ensure he takes care of his child.
Please move on with your life. But if you stay and get abused and cheated on again, please do not complain or seek advice – from me or your lesbian friend!
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