INTERNATIONAL: UK man sleeps with wife’s corpse to help him grieve

INTERNATIONAL: UK man sleeps with wife’s corpse to help him grieve

1075394_10153069240220221_1347314597_oINDEPENDENT (UK) – A grieving husband who slept next to his wife’s dead body in their bedroom for six days says he couldn’t bear to see her taken off to a mortuary in a body bag.

Leasing agent Russell Davison’s wife, Wendy, died at their home in Derby, England, after a 10-year battle with cervical cancer.

He said he was determined to keep her at home with their four children and not hand her over to a funeral director.

The dad now wants to reassure others that staying close to a loved one’s dead body should be nothing to be scared of.

Russell said he washed and dressed Wendy’s body and placed it in a coffin — which he called a “cocoon” — in the couple’s bedroom.

And Russell insists it should be “the way we treat our dead,” saying it allowed him and the boys to come to terms with their devastating loss.

Russell said: “Wendy died very peacefully, fully sedated, in no pain in mine and Dylan’s arms with our ever faithful dog Elvis snuggled up right next to her too.

“She looked absolutely beautiful, just like she always did in life: no effort, no make-up, just radiant beauty.

“We have been fooled by TV and films into thinking there is something to be scared about with dead bodies — there is not, I can assure you.”

Wendy, 50, was diagnosed with cervical cancer in 2006 — just after the couple’s joint 40th birthday — and was told three years ago she had six months to live.

But she shunned chemotherapy and radiotherapy and embraced “natural health,” Russell said.

The couple bought a mobile home and traveled around Europe, but in September last year returned to Britain as Wendy’s pain became unbearable.

But she was determined to die at home and was nursed by Russell and the boys until her death on April 21.

Russell, also 50, said: “For a long time I have been determined to have Wendy at home when she died.

“I did not want her in the mortuary or handed over to a funeral director, I wanted us to take care of her ourselves at our family home, and have her in our bedroom so I could sleep in the same room.”

He said keeping Wendy at home was like “an emotional decompression chamber,” which helped the family come to terms with her death while she was still there.

Russell said: “The idea of her being taken away in a plastic body bag hours after death is so alien to us all now we really don’t think we could have taken it.”

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  1. I am in agreement that before funeral undertakers, the bodies were kept at home but not for 6 days. I remember vividly when my great grand mother died, she was kept at home overnight and buried the following day. To keep a body at home for a week is not hygienic and very disturbing.

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  2. very sad story, but it takes a lot to live with odor of a dead body for six days... i don't think that was fair to the children. sorry!

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    • Before funeral undertakers, the dead were kept in the home and from there they were taken to church for the funeral service and to be buried. Coffins were made in the yards. Now peoples’ sensibility is so clinical that all they think of the dead is stench and decay that they pay for someone to handle their dead. It tales true love to be engaged throughout. I bet the grieving process because of that engagement is much easier, and the value of living is more meaningful for all concerned.

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  3. It is said that love is blind and perhaps love is also ANOSMIC to the SMELL of a decomposing corpse!

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  4. so just now. where you actually thinking of keeping a smelling decomposing body inside your house with out burying it? man all yall sick and just disgustingly nasty

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