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We argue a lot but still that doesn’t change our love for each other. In 2012, I found out that I was pregnant. At the same time, he left for a cruise line. Since his departure I have become very insecure. My mind has been in a whirlwind, thinking all sorts of stuff, but he is not that kind of person. He has never done me wrong.
My family members have always been pushing me to end our relationship but I seriously don’t want to. It’s as if I have wrapped myself around him and never want to let go. They say all sorts of stuff, like he is not caring for his son and I, but Willie, to be honest, he does the best that he can. His son means the world to him, he loves us both, and he has always said that.
Earlier in 2013, I became even more insecure. A few women have been leaving flirty messages on his pictures. I spoke to him about it and he said it’s nothing to worry about. He said ‘babes’,’hun’ and stuff like that are all smart names people use.
Willie, a few weeks ago my relationship went to the brink. I accused him of having other women and made the mistake of telling him I think he should move on. I have always been saying these words to him and he never left, he stayed. But now Willie, he took it very serious.
When I said I did not mean it, he asked why I am changing it now. I have tried everything to fix our relationship, to bring peace back for our son’s sake. He said that he is not happy with the situation and that he needs time to think. My family got what they wanted, which is us breaking up.
He said it’s not easy at all. He will be returning home in March this year.
Willie, the guy wanted to get married to me really bad. This is why we gave our son his last name. He was just waiting on me, but for some reason I did not feel ready but now I am willing to give it my all to make things right.
Willie, I need advice. I need my boyfriend of four years and six months back. He means everything to me.
Dear Miss: Seems like you had a very good man playing games with.
If I was in his position I would not take you back, not even for a million dollars. Why? Because you’re very insecure and you’ve admitted to have wronged him twice!
I could understand you if you missed him being away for so long, but having been the one who wronged him twice, he should be the insecure one, not you!
If you want him back, then express your feelings to him when he returns in March. However, do not push for marriage because I do not believe you’re ready as yet. You need to get over your trust issues.
Also, bear in mind, he is only returning for a short time, and he will be gone again. Can you deal with him being away again? It makes no sense each time he is away you become insecure again. SO think carefully if you believe this relationship is what you really need.
The good thing is, he is still taking care of his son. As for your family, that’s their problem. You should be old enough to know what you want and make your own decisions.
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