I forgave my cheating girlfriend out of love

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I forgave my cheating girlfriend out of love


Dear Willie:
I’m with this girl for almost three years now. After our first year together she cheated on me with a guy from work. I found out about it from her friends but I didn’t tell her anything. I just kept waiting to find solid evidence.

After six to seven months I realised that I really was losing her for true so I confronted her and told her I knew what was going on. She confessed to me and I forgave her and stayed with her out of love.

We now live together. Please tell me if I’m stupid to do so or advise me as to what I should do now.

CONFUSED

Dear CONFUSED: You haven’t indicated a problem. As far as I see, you solved your problem: you forgave her and now living together. So why are you confused?

And no you were not stupid. Forgiving someone is not weakness. It shows you are a strong person. You did not resort to violence or defamation. You handled it the best way you saw fit.

If your relationship is going fine, then there is no need to be confused. Just work on making the relationship better and ensure you find out why she cheated – if you haven’t done so – and learn from either mistakes. Move forward and don’t dwell on the past.

Willie 

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  1. You are being a strong individual for forgiving and moving on. We all fall prey to the flesh. Temptations are easy to come by. We're human!

    Keep in mind though that despite the trouble you faced with her cheating...experiencing problems in ur relationship is inevitable. that again is because we are human and prey to sin. We all need to realize that God is the only source of strength and freedom from all the bad things dwelling in this world.

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  2. Man, you need to learn how to cheat-proof your relationship. Check me and I will give you a series of specific techniques so that your woman will never look into the eyes another man again.

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  3. It doesn't make sense to ask if u did was right or wrong? So if Willie says it was wrong wah u gonna do leave her? The decision is made..so live up to it..give her ur trust again but make sure she doesn't break it. Communicateeeee!!! Find out why she cheated then decide what can be done from there. Don't be fooled by the word love..love does entail being true to ur partner..best of luck hun xx

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  4. Some of you people are too illiterate always commenting nonsense, when you people need more advised. choops

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  5. Lucians again ZAfE moun, Everyone deserves a second chance.Man if you love your woman work things out but if she continue to cheat move on. One love

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  6. Doe worry all woman does sleep on there man some just doe see the man yet or if they see the man the man doe want them real talk

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  7. Everyone deserves a second chance, but remember, fooled me once shame on you, fooled me twice shame on me.

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  8. But i still believe ONE out of a million women can cheat and never do it again!!!but from what i read she is not the one!!!

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  9. @fwet you were reading my mind my take is boy get tested!!!these women just SLUTS!!You have to find out from her friends. Boy are you that PATHETIC ?????????????

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  10. Did not read other comments! But true be told we can forgive easily, when someone cheat on us. Is forgetting and erasing it from our minds are almost impossible. You will be with that personal out love never question whether they will cheat again, but it is so difficult to erase it from the thought of our minds, ever so often though of the person she cheated with and what she did flash in our minds. Honestly that a hard cross to carry. But try to look only forward one day at a time with that person. (And trust me if you have a good woman, it was nice while it lasted but it eating her inside just as bad, with regrets)

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  11. If i was you i would tell dat sutty to go [email protected]%k herself.. so it seems that if you didnt confront her she would never say anything? She probably would get breed and tell you thats your yute too? my g, send dat girl on her business.. She probably bang a whole 20 times ON YOUR HEAD! If you did not confront her, hmmm figure it out... anyways thats my take. Oh and get tested same speed

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  12. Fella to truly forgive her means you are not confused it should be like nothing happened. There's a possibility of it happening again that is if she wants to do it. You née to find out if she wants the relationship to work. Not for people but for yall. But boy after sex if was me I have nothing to do with her cause women don't have sex with anybody that sex is calculated they know who where and when from the beginning soo u need to verify that she wants yall to work out

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  13. My dear you are a very stupid man, this girl is still having that affair with her co-worker. Work is the easiest place to have an affair, they don't need to go out or anything she. Most of her time is spent at work anyway.The lunch time sex must be well good. Just my opinion!

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  14. im so sick and tired of reading this column and im just so ******* angry.....28 and still single... been in and out of relationships.... mainly because I wont put up with this FABRICATED LOVE THAT THESE MEN GIVE.... see see good men who are with self women who don't appreciate them... there for them at their back and call.. an those women don't **** appreciate the good man they got... self *** women.... and im there hunting praying and hoping,,, having a few patients and cant seem to can myself a sweet heart... choopz..

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    • We all good men are already taken. We had to experience hurt. Yet we so good we forgive and continue our relationship. Life Goes On. Wish my woman never cheated on me but then think better it happen when you and your lover young. Then she has regrets your'll move on with your'll life. Instead of it happen to you after you decide that your wife.

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    • You not alone in that boat. I'm 50 and in that boat too. Is a big boat with many people (both male & female) so you may not see me waiving all the way at the front.

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      • Sometimes I wonder why men are attracted to easy women. The women who lay it out on a platter in the yard for any one who cares too,to sample.
        These intelligent men will leave women who they know are decent , intelligent, with strong values and pick up some easy woman that it does not take much to get their legs separated even get married to them for better or for worse and then they complain. There is more to a relationship than sex. And if two people love each other they will learn to please each other. But most times is all about the sex.

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  15. It sounds to me that you are pretty young....there must be a reason y the girl have been cheating for this long....u should never just forgive her and go live together.....sounds like you did it out of obsession..... U first need to find out what u aren't doing right b cuz it really sounds like something is wrong somewhere...is either u are not doing something right in the n
    Bedroom or u maybe not giving the girl her space....u need to re think of what you want in the future because I can see problems already b cuz that relationship is already on the wrong note

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