Dear Willie: I’m with this girl for almost three years now. After our first year together she cheated on me with a guy from work. I found out about it from her friends but I didn’t tell her anything. I just kept waiting to find solid evidence.
After six to seven months I realised that I really was losing her for true so I confronted her and told her I knew what was going on. She confessed to me and I forgave her and stayed with her out of love.
We now live together. Please tell me if I’m stupid to do so or advise me as to what I should do now.
Dear CONFUSED: You haven’t indicated a problem. As far as I see, you solved your problem: you forgave her and now living together. So why are you confused?
And no you were not stupid. Forgiving someone is not weakness. It shows you are a strong person. You did not resort to violence or defamation. You handled it the best way you saw fit.
If your relationship is going fine, then there is no need to be confused. Just work on making the relationship better and ensure you find out why she cheated – if you haven’t done so – and learn from either mistakes. Move forward and don’t dwell on the past.
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