I don’t trust my boyfriend with white chicks

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I don’t trust my boyfriend with white chicks


Dear Willie:
I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months now and I’ve noticed something about him that bothers me.

When we started hanging out there was this older white woman in particular that he posted pics of on his Facebook (FB) and Instagram. When I noticed how cozy the two of them looked in the pics I asked him whether they had something and he indicated that she did have an interest towards him and they kissed once. He also said that she was only here for a week. But he has never posted pics of any girl before but this woman in particular.

I told him that I didn’t feel comfortable about him having her pics and after over a week of arguing about it he removed them.

He has always given me reason to suspect that he has a preference for white women as he always says that they are more affectionate than black women and that black women always wear weave and he hates that. I have seen posts on his FB page about hating black women because they are argumentative and fake. Yet I am a black woman and he claims to love me every day.

He has also told me that he wants to marry me because I’m all he ever wanted. Yet I feel this level of insecurity when it comes to him and white women. I have spoken to him about the way I feel and we always end up in an argument about race which is funny because he is a black guy.

Is it normal for me to feel insecure? Should I trust him, especially this older white woman?

Dear Miss: Your boyfriend sounds like a very bold and expressive person. He appears to have been very open with you. He could have lied and said he never kissed the woman. Sometimes being honest creates a problem.

He probably has a preference for white women because he may have had some very bad experiences with black women. However, the fact that he is with you means that you’re very, very special. He could have been with a white woman. He could have been with the white woman in his pics. However, he chose to be with you, and you should be thankful.

Unless he does something drastic, please stop nagging him and being insecure. If you continue to be nagging, then this will prove his point.

Give him the benefit of the doubt. Being openly insecure will not help your relationship. And you know it is not helping now either. It is just causing arguments, which will eventually lead to break-ups if continued.

If he continues to bring up the white woman subject, tell him you’re offended and he needs to stop, and also promise him that you won’t bug him anymore about the topic.

So give him a break. And always have your eyes open, but never put yourself in a position where you can be blamed for causing the breakdown of your relationship.

Willie

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  1. It's not only men,many of your women prefer white men and whore themselves out to both men and women (Circue Desir).
    But in the end they are throw-away weave wearing, dirty women,that have been on their knees for any white man they can snag.

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  2. LOL Not picky, what does that say about you. Ha Ha ha!!!!!!!!! Wise up!!! Evidently you are hurt that girls have standards. Never mind, thank you for doing us a favour with your attitude. So much easier to sift through.

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    • SO I HAD A "FLING" IN ST.LUCIA ONLY TO FIND OUT THAT IT WAS A NON-FACTOR IN MY LIFE IN THE UNITED STATES WITH A FAMILY I LOVE AND WOULD NEVER LEAVE.
      THE GIRL WAS AN EASY TRICK AND WOULD NEVER BE THE WOMAN I WOULD SPEND MY LIFE WITH. IMAGINE I WASN'T THE ONLY.
      LOOKING BACK SHE WAS A WASTE OF TIME AND RESOURCES, JUST A WORKIN GIRL TRYING TO GET AHEAD WITH AWHITE MAN. AY WOMAN WHO FALLS TO THEIR KNEES AND GIVES SEX TO A MARRIED MAN IS A BLOW HO.
      NEVER AGAIN

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  3. Just saying i am my wife barber for all her hair business brows, arm pits ,pus, etc and it cost her nothing so stop paying thousands for fake anything and yes white girls rock best sex ever and they are not picky they just cool not like black girls that think the world revolves around them, b itchy bitchy and nagging all the time wise up or lose us

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    • Ain't no body care about loosing you'll idiots that's why so many of you'll got hanged during the days of slavery

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    • You think white girls can't be bitchy or nag. How many white/black girls did you have to try to come to that conclusion. & I'm sure you kept trying right & they kick u 2 the curb with your nasty attitude. With an attitude like that you are doing black girls a favour. Do you think you are the only person to have good sex. Sex has no colour, it boils down to preference & connection. But then it sounds like you are only concerned with your physical needs & she too. You sound like a sex worker, no ambition. Rock on we need less men like you infiltrating our community. "PRIMEtime" Stay with her & you better hope your cock a lock don"t cease up because she'll be on to the next one. LOL

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    • LOL Not picky, what does that say about you. Ha Ha ha!!!!!!!!! Sex slave!!!! Wise up!!! Evidently you are & hurt that black girls have standards. Never mind. You sound challenged & I'm sure your children will be challenged if you don"t change that attitude.

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  4. the problem I have is not that he prefers white women, but its the reason he prefers white women. A LOT of white women wear weave, which they actually call "extensions" we just have this mentality that once you white your hair is long and don't question further. Also there are many white women who are loud and obnoxious... vice versa many black women are quiet and affectionate... I've heard this reasoning for so many years as to why a man should prefer white women over black women and most times they are looking at black ghetto women to white upstanding women in the community. It's just sad and racist ingrained in us so much we don't even realize it. It's the same as saying I prefer white men cuz all black men on the street corner uneducated or in jail. It's ridiculous and depressing for the black race.

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  5. First of all put your security in God and not in man. I understand why you feel insecure because this man has cheated with this other woman and based on what he has said about white women. Yes he was honest enough to say he did but he isn't loyal. I've seen people pretend that they love someone and cheat and say if I wanted to be with that person I would have but I'm with you. Nonsense. People can be so deceiving. No one wants to be with someone and not be certain that it is them this person really wants to be with. He can be saying that to her but to the other woman another story. Some people are just selfish and don't want to see you with someone else so they keep you there and try doing their shit undercover till you catch them and then they admit they did cheat but don't give the real reason why. I can't say if this man really loves you after all he has asked you to marry him. All I can say is trust your instincts if you genuinely feel something is wrong it usually is.

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  6. As a black person I am of the belief that if you can find comfort in the arms of a woman of your race and culture the problem squarely lies with you.

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    • My brother, please tell them. After all i'm sure his mother cradled him and showed him his first love and affection or maybe she didn't that's why he have the problem. & in that case he need counselling, because if he don't his problems will still surface in his relationship white or black chick.

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  7. LOL Women are" argumentative and fake", because they will call him out on his BS. When a woman has finally had enough of the shenanigans, she will play the fool, to the fool he thinks he's fooling and then leave. This is the insecurity a boy/man faces with a realist. They love realist deep down, but know they are not worthy of them because of their shallow thinking. Colour has no role in this!!!! It is more about character, morals and values.

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  8. Stand your ground!!!! Ask the man to post pictures of the both of you together and to put on his status that the both of you are in a relationship. This will clearly make the other woman see he is in a relationship with you and is committed to you. Pray with your partner and commit the relationship and his attitude to God that he may be healed from the soul tie of this woman so you can move forward together, knowing that God is in it. Set goals and think of the positive plans and future you have ahead. Do not speak much of the woman as you are giving her unnecessary power in your relationship. Focus on yourself and young lady pray for the will of God to be done that no other woman will infiltrate your relationship.

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    • My girl, don't wait for him to update his relationship status. Claim what is yours, update your relationship status and link his profile to it. Show her your the lady boss. Game done : )

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  9. Save our souls you really summed it up in your first comment! The island is full of so much ignorance and this medieval attitude will hold it back!

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