“I can’t stick to one man at a time”

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“I can’t stick to one man at a time”

Dear Willie: I think that I am overly obsessed with men, mainly for their physical appearance and sometimes personality. I find myself liking a guy very quickly and the feelings don’t seem to go away easily.

I’ve been in two official relationships but neither of them lasted long since I found myself liking other people whilst having a boyfriend. Currently I’m in an on-and-off relationship with a close friend. However, I’ve already found myself falling for another guy who I know is just trying to use me, but I just can’t get him out of my mind.

I’ve tried ignoring him but I find myself wanting him even more. He really knows how to make me feel good! My current boyfriend is aware of the situation and I know he is very hurt. I’m afraid that I will never be able to be in a proper relationship since I can’t stick to one man at a time.  I don’t know what to do again.

Lustful

Dear Lustful: Based on the tone of your letter, you sound like a teenager or someone in their early 20s. I believe you’re in an “experimental” stage of your life where you just really want to have fun.

I do not believe you’re ready to settle down as yet. I however believe that one day you will be able to stick to one man, but not right now.

A lot of people, mainly the ages 16-23, believe they’re ready to commit but they’re actually not. Just ask your parents or someone older about the type of person they were from 16-23 compared to now. Total different mindset. The people you’re falling in love with now, are not necessarily the people you may desire at 29-39.

In the meantime, I would recommend stop trying to get into a relationship, but while you have fun, please protect yourself.

Willie

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38 COMMENTS

  1. It sounds like you are honest enough with yourself to know what you want. There are men out there that find it a turn on for their partner to be with other men.., if u still keep up on this let me know and I would be glad to discuss this with you

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  2. The truth shall set you free. To all the self -righteous persons out there, judge yourself before judging others.At least she knows she has a problem and is seeking advice while we hiding our secrets and calling people names. Mama couyaie jamet avant e couyaie ou jamet!!! thats our attitude.

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  3. If the lady wants to have sex with who n when she wants I eh see a problem with that. We all have choices. Some of u bashing her just might be doing it undercover

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  4. Mostly everyone goes through a phase when they're young.Stop critizing the young woman. Not everyone have to settle down early. Just have fun and protect yourself.....

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  5. she is in her late 20's. She has a child and the guy she is talking about is in a relationship. The guy will use her as she said. That is what this guy has doing.If a guy can cheat on his girlfriend with another or other women what makes them think he won't cheat on them. Some women are just plain nasty. You might be wondering how I know who wrote the article well the individual herself said she would be writing this article.

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    • In her 20s or 30s?? I know a girl that does the same shit & she thinks it’s okay & the so called “off & on” bf lives by her home & he has a gf. He lies to the gf everyday. Some girls are just nasty. Not sugarcoating anything. Btw the one I know got 2 kids

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  6. All women must go through that phase......it can be when they are young
    Or when they on crutches.....they were created to satisfy men.......some are just more generous than others.....and all u ladies passing judgement don't be a hippocrite.....doing shit undercover n playing sainty sainty........fire

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    • Rasta is that all what u think a woman is worth wow das disrespect 2 equality between man an woman an rasts say they doh forward flesh wow I guess men gift 2 women is PAIN an SUFFERING whiles u get satisfaction I hope u doh have daughters

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  7. Alot of these issues would be avoided if young girls took there time n GOT married virgins like before now vagina has lil value urll have plp playing all there ole dirty fingers n penises in urll,women n young girls need to stopp!!! Seriously, stop it, its not cool at all

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  8. Looks like ur mind not maaakin up an ur cat have flair 4 vice an one man cah bbbb enough u reaaady 444 ddd rooooad,Ur life u breaaakin up an crotch go b waaasted up so u better liiisten up doh b used up like a roooooad come on now sing with me silly

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    • Judging from your comment if you reached as far as fifth form you must have gotten a 5 or 6 in English A(if you wrote it) ... Or probably some thing's wrong upstairs; chemical imbalance ..lol

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      • D WHITE MAN EDUCATION U HAVE MAKIN U JUDGE ME BUT YET U USING RASTA 2 SAY U HAVE ROOTS KNOWLEDGE CHECK UR SELF FIRST CUS D JAMACIAN MUSICAL EXPRESSIONS U LISSON 2 IS NO WERE CLOSE 2 MY INTRO 4 PROPER ENGLISH SILLY now bash me I know u itching go ahead scratch

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  9. Just because she likes men doesn't mean she 'taking how much cock' , you people like making assumptions too fast. Chpzz

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  10. It looks like she is a player. But u must be careful u are totaly not ready for any resl relationship right
    live, learn and play some more.
    But at some point you must asked yourself some question.

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  11. is it a charm or is it that of an other cock and bull story from a woman/girl/female? wtf u cant keep ur legs closed and open to only one man girl? and tomoro u will want to say all men are the same uh? SMFH

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  12. as usual all what a man can do a woman cant.psssh so i quess u r proving them wrong.woooorddd.i thing u should get some counselling.u may have deep underlying disturbing issues.girl ive been married for 13 yrs and i have never cheated.i got married at 23.so get some help and learn to love yourself.

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  13. Just because she likes men doesn't mean she 'taking how much cock' , you people like making assumptions too fast. Chpzz I agree with Willie.

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  14. so why she so nasty..She know the boy just want to use her..smh..She need to get pregnant soon..Maybe she will coolout

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