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“I am only with my girlfriend because of my daughter”

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Dear Willie:
I have a big problem. I am a guy to start off with and I have been with my baby mama for three years now. Everything was good until I met my first real girlfriend, about nine months ago.

Willie, I started cheating on my girlfriend with her and it’s amazing. When I am with her, it’s like we were made for each other. I am so comfortable, but when I have to leave it’s really hard because the thing is I love her and I want to be with her, but I don’t want to be away from my child.

I am only with my girlfriend because of my daughter. The first real girlfriend is willing to be mother to my daughter if I do leave my girlfriend, but Willie I don’t know what to do. She has achieved so much since we broke up and my baby mama has never worked and depends on me for everything.

As a man what would you do?

Dear Sir: So you want to dump your girlfriend because your ex is back in the pic. This is not something I would do or encourage.

I understand you want an ambitious woman, but whose fault it is to be with her in the first place? Now after having made use of the girl, you want  to jump ship. Not nice.

What if your girlfriend dumps you because she finds another man who has a better paying job than yours? Would that be fair? I also believe a man’s influence in a relationship determines his woman’s success. Her welfare is also the responsibility of her partner.

His influence may either motivate her to do something or makes her spoiled or worthless. Do you encourage her to find work, help her to find her talent and realise her dreams?

What is also disappointing is that your ex is also part of this plot to hurt your girlfriend. How would your ex feel if this was being done to her?

But you know what, you can do what’s best for you, because if you’re no longer ‘feeling’ your girlfriend why waste your time and hers?

I do believe in Karma, however.

Willie

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29 comments

  1. A man who is not willing and able to provide for and protect his family a good for nothing. Why would a man find a problem with being a provider when it should be instinctive Selfish lazy bastard. Go be the other woman's b***h

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  2. I do not believe that anyone should remain in a loveless relationship. It isn't fair to either of you. You are keeping your 'baby mama' from finding someone who really appreciates her for who she is. However I'm sure that you did not meet her yesterday, therefore you should have known the type of person she was yet you became close enough to have a baby with her. I honestly do not believe that she is the problem. She may have her faults but you should have known better from the onset. If you don't love her,then set her free but remember that your new girlfriend became your ex for a reason and unless both of you have grown and changed she will become your ex again.

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  3. They say what you don't know wont hurt you but i personally think you should free your daughter's mom.You don't want to be with her,raise her awareness.It seems like your mind is made up but whatever you do just be the best dad you can.It is unfair what you are doing to her mom.In the end remember people who grow together(achieve compatibility) share a better sense of respect appreciation and understanding toward each other.You are a grown man use your head not your eyes and not your desire to attain a well off woman

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  4. THANK GOD I AM SINGLE

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  5. Great advice Willie......speaking from experience bro....my first ex dumped me cause he found
    someone who he claimed was better able to care for him financially.....and we had two kids.......i tried my best i even went to Sir Arthur lewis comminity college but that wasnt enough.......he found himself in a
    position where he had to leave the country no sooner did she find someone else...the same woman many people faced and told her I have two kids with the guy leave him be in which her response was....every man for himself....second guy.....same thing started off well and then found a woman with a business...we had one together.....i was constantly emotionally abused......I left the country for a better life today these men are full of regret.....one was even mad that I sponsered a man not him......its unfair to your baby's mom because she relies on you financially....how about caring for your child, and house hold duties doesn't that count....how about the love she has for u....the woman my ex picked with the business treats him like dirt, even if he has a source of income....she insults him and the list goes on.....if the tables were turned wouldn't you want ur child's mom to stick around.....or would u want her to find a man who is independent and dump you......learn from my situation bro......love is more important than money.....if ur girlfriend was all over running around with other men I would say proceed with caution......a virtuous woman tramps.....material wealth.....life is about someone to grow old with to be your companion......to stick with you through thick and thin

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  6. u know whats your problem... ur baby mama now has a child and cannot give you all the attention she use too, you want to bounce. ur ex seems childless and has all the time in the world to please you.plus she wants to be in this child's life too.. (receipt for disaster, you ask for every thing you get in the future)..i can guarantee you if ur ex gets pregnant after a few months you would move on.. Be a man and take care of your responsibilities.. i suggest not having any more kids until you're more mature..and your ex.. women always putting themselves in shit they cannot handle..then they will write to poor willie.

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  7. right answer willie. you have really dealt with this one perfectly

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  8. First off...how old (I mean how young) is this idiot!

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  9. Please do your gf a favour, and let her go. She deserves better then you. It may be hard for her, but in the end she'll see her worth. You don't appreciate what you have! all the best with you n ur ex, till KARMA shows its ass!

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  10. Always another drama my boy if u eh want or love ur baby mamma do her a favour and let her go un just take care of ur child right now its a fling so u feeling like ur ex is the right one for you take care u reach deh full time un eh want to run back sumtimes da grass not always greener

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  11. Good answer Willie!

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  12. If the man is not happy let him be,he can still be a good father to his daughter if his not in live with the baby mama just go your own way cause u will for ever cheat and be miserable be a man and just cum out and be real dont stay because of the child u will just find yourself in more problems

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  13. I wonder if she knows you don't love her..

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  14. Men..men..men..they never cease to amaze me...

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  15. The ex that encouraging u to do such is a coward. Remember do unto others what u would want done to u. If it was her child she would not want another woman raising her so y the hell she see it to want to raise the woman child. No other woman can replace a mother .man give your child the opportunity of being raised by both her parents and stop being selfish just for sex. Woman come and go .your daughter's happiness will last a life time.

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  16. Kat wat is there to spice up,,,d man already lost all feelings towards her,,,some of urll women just feel bcuz a man has children or a child wit a woman he has to stay wit her,,,dats not d case,,men do take all their responsibilities without being wit d mother,,pickney nah hold man again

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  17. Firstly you don't have to be with your baby mama to be a great dad to your daughter. Just make sure you are there physically, financially and emotionally for your child. Secondly why do you think it's necessary for your new woman to be a mother to your child,she obviously will be part of the child life but she can do that without trying to take over her mother's role. Finally if you don't want to be with your baby mama anymore be a man and let her know. Leaving a double life won't solve the problem.

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  18. Dat new girlfriend Is most likely cheating on u. I suggest u hold it down with ur child mother cuz after all, she did make a great sacrifice to make u happy by bearing ur yute... das ur own family bro.. cherish it, build it, respect it. Trust me, das what makes u a REAL man in life g.

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  19. Man u are a jackass.what makes u feel u n or ex won't go through the same thing.anx don't be fooled by the ex saying she will take care of the child for u.karma is a dirty bitch.

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  20. Those jerks never cease to amaze me. First off think of your daughter remember she's a girl growing up in a cold and cruel world. Sins of the father's somehow always befall their children. Secondly; before you ditch your current girlfriend weigh the pros and cons...I'm sure you'd be surprise that your ex ain't all that. Your fling is willing to care for your child huh? That don't mean shit! Plenty sheep in wolf clothing out there.
    Don't give up on your family just to please your sexual needs. Try spicing up the relationship your baby mama alone can't do it on her own...she don't work! Send her to take up a course learn a skill a foreign language something. She's the mother of your child working everyday I bet my ass off cooking cleaning washing and caring for yall daughter while taking care of the household. She's only depended on you financially that's nothing compared to the birth of your baby and the years of your life she's given you. To me that's work enough she deserves the pay.
    Don't be a dick...take a break from your ex focus on what's before u. As Peter state the grass ain't always greener on the other side.

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  21. Niggro follow your heart

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  22. Clearly you don't love your "baby mama" anymore so "free up" the woman and your self my brother! Stop the pretending and lying,it may hurt her and I pray she doesn't keep your daughter away from you when it happens...

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  23. Do what's best for the child. You could still be a good parent and a part of her life even if you are not living with her.

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  24. Men go and hav kids wif women who are willing to go ahead wif da plan and later on realise dt they cant stay in a relationship. Men always think about their dick only. There is a prob they will nva sit and talk or c up wif solutions first finkn is to jump ship accordin to u
    Men dont know how to communicate but if they hav to insult a woman they can find all the ways.

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  25. If ur ex dumped u once she will do iit again but mostt immmportantt no woman willingly takes on another woman's child bee vvery ccareful

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  26. The grass is never greener on d oda side.... Dis grl was ur ex fuh a reason... Backwards neva forward Always.... Do onto odas as yuh will like dem tu do onto yuh

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