High school girl in despair

High school girl in despair

Dear Willie: I am a 16-year-old student attending high school. I honestly feel that life is not worth living. I am not popular at school and I feel I am not in the in-crowd.

People make fun at me for being teachers’ pet; I am an A+ student. They look down on me. To make matters worst I am crushing on a guy who doesn’t even know I exist. I am a nobody.

Dear miss: You may not know it but someone that has never told you is admiring you, someone is looking up to you because of your character, and you need to be strong. People could call you far worst names than teachers pet, but they are trying to bring you down because you’re an outstanding student. It’s jealousy. You know that you have not offended your classmates maliciously, so that’s alright; because 10 years from now if it’s up to you, you will be more successful than the popular kids.

You can gain fame by being an educated woman and making a name for yourself. While everyone wants to fit in, school is not a popularity contest. Their young minds may not understand that, but when they mature enough and reflect they will regret treating you that way. As for the guy you are crushing in is clearly not worth beating yourself over. You are somebody. God sees your potential and your family does too. Make them proud.

Willie.

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  1. my girl eh worry that eh nun thing eh study your class mates i wish when i was goin skool i was like u i always use to get myself in trouble now i foreign n i goin skool but if i had put my head down like wat u doin now not now i back in lucia

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  2. Girl God loves you,
    When ever you feel depressed or life is not worth it just say Jesus i know you love me and died for me...

    reading about yoour performance brought a smile to my face because we always dreamed of being an A+ student. you are blessed by God with knowledge, just ask him for wisdom as u go along life's journey, and high school is temporary, school you will be off to college n work and choose a career. its normal to have crushes, the thing about a crush is that the person you crushing oun doesnt know that you have a crush on them. i am 26 and i still crush on guys.

    Sweetheart you need to speak some blessings into you life my young friend,
    say:
    I am blessed by God
    I am intelligent
    I am wonderfully and fearfully made by God
    I am loved by God
    I am a miracle child
    Also ask God to do his will for you life, He has a wonderful plan for your life...

    have a blessed day and please make me proud

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  3. I wish I was an 'A' Student cus I would not have difficulty getting a scholarship for university in this hard time

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  4. din't worry if he doesn't notice you now, you won't notice him after high school. I know. I look back and wonder why was I head over heels over these guys in school. Focus on your school work, develop a relationship wit God if you have not and spend time with family and friends.. that's what's important.

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  5. Please take all the advice you receive here my dear. God made you beautiful and he a great plan for you. those who torture you will look up to you someday. focus on you studies to get to where you want to go in life to make yourself & your parents proud. forget about this crush for now, you will have enough time for it later in life. god bless and have a great day.

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  6. Wow I am impresssed with your response willie and the many comments. That's what we need to do encourage those in distress. Keep positive young lady. School children can merciless and take pleasure in torturing others and believe me many would not even care if u literally gave up. Keep positive this too shall pass. Stay strong. Keep praying your rewards shall be worth the struggles

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  7. First of all, love yourself at all cost and don't be distracted on that front. When you have found that love, brace for more jealousy to follow. See yourself as different and because of it you are special. Those making fun of you are envious of you because you are different, special, and excel academically. You are distressed because you have not accepted yourself as being different, so you want to be like the rest. This is called peer pressure and is normal for groups your age. You have eyes on a guy but remember one doesn't always get what one wants, therefore change your focus and that will help you to eliminate that guy from your mind. Ask yourself this question. Who is more important? ( him, me or them). A smart girl like you should answer that question correctly and will live happily there after.

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  8. That's the dumbest most insignificant letter ever! Dear dear girl, you think in ten years this high school crap is going to matter? You think the popular crowd is going to be popular after graduation? Think again tun! It doesn't matter! And enjoy being the teacher's pet for what it's worth. Focus on grades, this is what is going to determine your future. As for the boy you are crushing on he wont matter after you graduate. None of them will matter. Take it from me. Been there done that. I wasn't popular and didn't want to be. I was just fine with being and doing me. You should try it.

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  9. Young lady don't focus on those loosers. Focus on those A, s and those lossers will be your beggars in the next few years.

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  10. Dear I have been there. I went through this torture at school and dow the line some 16 years later I am proud to say that I am more successful than all those who made me loose my sel confidence ans self worth. I focused instead on makinng my parents and family proud nd excelled in the end. Do seek the lord and put yourself and family first. It will pay off in the end.

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  11. Young lady stay as sweet as you are you said you feel like a nobody.
    With grades like that you are somebody aim high reach for the stares the sky is the limite. You will reach your goal very soon. just hold on to your good manners keep yourself trust God and he will take you places you cannot imagine. stay sweet ok much love.

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  12. Young lady, you are fortunate and blessed. Keep your grades up and trust in god. Ten years from now I can almost guarantee the popular students will be history, sadly because they may not be able to keep up - with latest clothes, trends, especially in these economic times

    Forget popularity and be the best person you can be. As for your crush, that's just what it is. I'm sure there's someone who has a crush on you based on your grades and performance. You are on the right track to a god given future, seize the opportunity and make god smile down at you.

    For the comment from "in regret". At 25 my dear you can start your education. Work and study, if you can't find a job sell icicles, gum, tamarind balls, or start a vegetable garden in tires, pots etc and one subject at a time you will get there. Don't live in regret but learn from your experience and move on.

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  13. I can atest to her experience those classmates used to laugh at me and I am ashamed today when I see how some of them turn out, some look much older than their age, some are umemployed and ask me for money the same person whom they made fun of, at first their words got to me and made me depressed life seemed useless, but I got a grip of myself with the help of a loving teacher who is still my mentor today, I blossomed got distinctions and was able to get a scholarship to taiwan, young lady life sometimes is not easy, these are just steps to test us, don't worry about your classmates, you may be tHe envy of them all after school days are done, keep forcused, forget the crush you may want to hide from him later depending on how he turns out, there is a whole world of experiences waiting for you out there.

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  14. You remind me of myself back in those days;i was in your shoes too. Trust me, like everyone else is advising you on here: Focus on your Education, get involved in school organizations to build your team skills and professional development. 10yrs from now the popular ones that getting all the boys attention will be admiring you and wishing they were like you. The advice everyone is giving you here, i did just that and today i have my masters in structural engineering and can independently take care of myself and family! I guarantee you that your turn will come soon!

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  15. Great advice from everyone. As a mom i always tell my kids forget the cool crowd hang with the brains/geeks/teacher's pet. They have the brains, don't get in trouble and are always willing to keep u up to their level. On the other hand the cool kids are always in trouble, focus more on their looks than books and always want to keep u down,its a competition between cool kids. You are with a great crowd it will pay off in the long run. The boy who doesn't notice you if he is not on your education level then he definetly don't deserve you look at it as a blessing. You need someone than will build u up not break you down. Good luck sweety and always remember you are special in the eyes of god and your family and that's what matters

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  16. Young lady you are special in God's eyes . You are spevial to your teacher. You are special to ur parents dont let no one put you down keep ur head up high it will be difficult of course yes but it will only be for a while find your strenght in God . You are 16 be strong you will make it trust ur self believe in ur self the victory is yours .

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  17. Get your priorities in order my child get your education on track the same boy who doesn't know you exist will most likely be a nobody later in life.so fret not do what has to be done. May I say Kudos to the other comments all giving her words of encouragement.

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  18. wonderful advice willie ... darling ive been there believe me when i say being an A plus student will take u far in the next 10 years... i look at my classmates today persons who were all popular .. who everyone wanted to be friends with some of them are no good... some are so unhappy ... and some of them when they call me today im even ashamed that they know my name .... work hard at school persevere and you will be happy with your success and you hardwork..in terms of the guy ive learnt the hard way that ppl change and when ure all grown up u end up regretting decisions that u made or well mistakes. if this guy doesnt notice u like willie said forget him keep ur crush to yourself i fell in love with a guy at ur age thought u know we would be my love forever .. now smh our relationship is like we never knew one another and we are complete strangers which is sad but thats life... it pays to invest in your future rather than a man believe me

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  19. Young lady just pace yourself, you may not see it now but being in the in crowd is not worth. Keep your grades and be successful be a leader not a follower in the long run you'll meet that special someone, by the way food for thought the in crowd might be that out crowd later on!!

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  20. My dear I am 25 years old and unemployed at the moment and it almost brings tears to my eyes hearing your story because i was in your shoes and allowed it to destroy me. I stopped performing well and made a fool of myself just around CXC time. It is only now that i realize how much of a fool i was and how my peers strive to be what i was. Please stay strong you will reap the rewards later trust me. Good luck

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  21. My advice to her is to not let those idiot kids get to her. If she is an A+ student she has a chance of giving a scholarship to a good university overseas. So she needs to get her priorities right. When she gets to university she will have all the fun to make up for her teens, all the boys to play with and if she balances her studies and social life right she will have a fancy degree that can get her any job she wants.

    So don't be down young lady. Your teenage years are the shortest and least significant years of your life. The real fun starts in your 20s.

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  22. AWWW..THERE COULDNT BE BETTER ADVICE...WILLIE SAID IT..AND NOT JUST TO MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD BUT THAT THE COMPLETE TRUTH.JUST TRY TO SURROUND YOURSELF WITH ONLY POSITIVE PEOPLE WHO MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL.

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  23. Well said Willie! Young lady, please start working on that career you would like. Always aim for the highest peak of the mountain which is never insurmountable for those who wish to take the challenge.

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  24. When you write your CXCs and get all A's and distinctions, these people who makes fun of you, will want to be you. Walk with pride, my child. Not everyone can get As even if they try as hard as they can. 10 yrs from now, you will look back and laugh at yourself for feeling this way now. Chances are these people who laugh at you might not even prosper much in life. Do your do, do good and God will be with you. Never ever think you are nobody. Because you are somebody's daughter, sister, grandchild, cousin and who knows someday you might be someone's doctor or lawyer or nurse too.

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  25. My dear , don't worry to much , I know exactly where you are coming from , when I look back at the unpopular years of my life I sit back and chuckle . Focus on those A's , I did , and trust me life is really good now 15 years later. The race call life it's not for swift but for those who can endure................M.D.

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  26. great reply willie. my girltake this good advice be self confident. don't follow the crowd!

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