My boyfriend cheated on me once when we were having major issues (my fault) and it was a white woman. Now, I am not a hater, but she was fat and quite unattractive. Not to mention, she may be pregnant with his baby.
Now, he confessed the affair to me and has had no more contact with her. He said when the baby comes in October he will get a blood test.
This girl has a long arrest record, doesn’t work and is on welfare. I am tall, attractive and I have a career.
I notice he never looks at any beautiful black women when we are out. But he always turns his head at some ugly white girl. Not to mention he always watches porn, which I don’t mind. I watch porn too, but he only watches white girls.
He tells me if he wanted a white girl he would get one. But he makes me think he is with me because I am a fair-skinned black girl.
How can I tell if he is attracted to white women? And should I be concerned?
Not to mention I am 10 years older than he is, even though I don’t look it.
He also tells me it is because where he lived for years it wasn’t any black women around, so he found himself attracted to white women, even though he is this black militant brother.
Thanks for your insight,
Dear Concerned: “Once you go white your future looks bright” and “once you go white it’s pure delight”. Those are the sentiments expressed to me when I asked a few black guys why they love white women.
But don’t despair, don’t be offended. In this case, because your man is a “black militant brother”, is the reason why white men “go black and never turn back”.
I have also been concerned too when I see these very beautiful white women with some scruffy, wild-looking black men.
The guy simply is attracted to white women more, regardless of appearance. You can’t kill him for that. It’s the same way, when white or fair-skinned females are arguably more attracted to darker skin guys.
If he is not attracted to you, he is not attracted to you – no matter how beautiful you are.
On the other hand, this man deserves the door. You need a better man. After all that you have explained, he does not love you.
So keep stepping.
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