“He leaves me in the house all the time”

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Dear Willie: I don’t know what to do. My baby daddy put me out while I was pregnant. I had the baby and started dating someone when she was three months.

The guy treated me great. After dating for three months he asked me to marry him, then my baby daddy ask me to come home. He said he was sorry for everything and he wanted us to be a family. I went back because I love him but now it seems like he just didn’t want me to be happy with someone else.

He leaves me in the house all the time. Even when I get a family member to watch the baby he won’t do anything with me. I’m so unhappy. What should I do?

Confused

Dear Miss: Serves you right. Got a good man then dumped him and went back to the garbage life. How could you go back to a man who dumped you while you were pregnant?

Now you’re complaining. The same way you got out in the first place, may be the same route you have to take to get out. But please, am begging you, do not go back to the man you took for a fool. If you’re not used to good vibe please find a puppet to play with. Leave the good men alone until you know what you really want.

If you can’t make things work out better with your baby daddy then as I said, find your way out. If you’re not happy, get the peace of mind by leaving.

Willie

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24 COMMENTS

  1. ANOTHER foolish woman! I don't get it.So the father of your child put you out. THREE months after your daughter was born you started DATING someone else?! SERIOUSLY?! SERIOUSLY?!

    THREE months afterwards your new 'bf' asked you to MARRY him and you were considering marrying him?! REALLY?!

    You went back to the guy who threw you out the house and started complaining?

    How about you try to take care of you and your daughter withOUT needing a man in your life? Ooops or is it that you aren't able to do so? (no job, not enough money)

    When will this cycle end? When will you become empowered? When will you become independent? When will you stand your ground?

    These letters have me feeling like I'm repeating the same thing.

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  2. Asiay girl u rrrrrrrrrrreeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaallllllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyyyyy stupid...u were born on april 1st man smdh...jessoo u go bac wit da fella after he put u out while u pregnant wit his child...i will take it that yu took a fall on ur head wen u were little

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  3. Obeviously this young woman dont know the difference between LOVE AND HATE. Young the difference is one puts u on cloud nine and the other makes u like trash you feel me sis. Now its up to u to choose one. Used your brain to think and not your body my goodness. Love feels very good.

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  4. Some women just enjoy abuse in any form>You are a typical one who don't enjoy being treated like a human being so stay in your trash,lol

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  5. u were accustomed of being treated like trash n when u found a good man u did'nt no how to deal with it. u missed da bad treatment. now ure back in ur sh#t, DON'T complain. i just hope he treating his child well. IDIOT!!

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  6. he right to do u that u live a man that was treating like a queen n go back with ur baby daddy wat u get hole it

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  7. After reading everyone's comments, I see that everyone is quick to judge, yes she made a mistake and she's learning the hard way. She wanted to keep her family together and went about it the wrong way. which I understand but calling her names and putting her down is not going to solve the situation she's in now. Like Willie said if you're not happy get out of the situation and I hope that you learn from it.

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  8. Amen to lucian girl! I was in a situation similar to that when I had my first child, although we were not living together, baby daddy practically dodged me, during me entire pregnancy although he was the one who wanted baby. I moved on have 2 other kids by my current bf, he is not a saint either but has never turned his back on his family . My first child is now 11 years old and baby daddy is still begging for another chance although he is married now. Trust me I'd rather kick myself a million times before this happens. A lot of us women knows what's best for us but like the sweet chat and flatter we get from the scumbags although we know its just for a while.

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  9. Its a culture of abuse in St. Lucia!Growing up saw soo much abuse against women and children.. no wonder we are so screwed up! ABUSED BREEDS ABUSE!

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  10. Smh @ you all, some people are so blinded by love that they don't see what's best for them, I'd like to assume that this is the case with the young lady. She made a BIG mistake yes, she knows it, and she's gonna learn the hard way, but right now she's confused, helpless, hopeless and is looking for counsel. Instead of denouncing, criticizing and insulting her, why not comfort her and give her some real advice! Smh

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  11. Whenever I read dear willie I have to get upset at these women. Young lady you were pregnant the man put u out on the streets you got a good man to love you and your child you left him to go back to da same man that mistreated you smh if I knew who your baby daddy was I would shake hands with him for what he doin to you.STUPID

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  12. This girl is a disgrace. You had a good man and then you left him for a piece of shit. Get yourself together and take care of your baby.

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  13. Like really a man poop out the big question in three months and u left him 4 wat a man u left wen u became pregnant wow I wonder where u got ur degree in being an ass smfh my 6 year old has much more common sense than u

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  14. i must say willie u couldnt be more real... i really appreciate the way you delivered that piece to her... Awesome adsdvice and you didnt play nice with her i can see you were irate just like everybody else... What i hate women to do... Oh i cannot raise my child without his father and oh its the best way to go. More than 85% percent of women in St Lucia are raising their children alone or with a kisspriest(stepdad) and it seems to go perfectly fine until the i dont care dad wanna show he cares now,,,, Women stop allowing men to kick you all over the court! Pick up yourself and forget them men and do whats right for you and your children... Our parents did it so can you..

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  15. Sometimes I wonder if those letters are fuh real...How the hell can you go back with someone who dumped you while you were pregnant with his child. If you loved yourself who wouldn't go back to the heartless pig, I feel sorry for your baby knowing she has a mom who has no love for herself. Its because of yall women good men turn to the bad ones. Willie should've ignored your letter..FOOL!!

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  16. Really smh @ some of these women I'm not saying the anyone is perfect but a man putting u out while being pregnant while another man saw it fit to embrace u and u leave to go back to a man that treat u like shit girl u getting what u truly deserve

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  17. I don't know why some of these women believe jumping on to a next man is the answer. You're right Willie, if she's unhappy then get out. If not, leave. And don't even go back with the good man because clearly you don't deserve him.

    P.S three months dating and marriage? NO!

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  18. I like that you did not sugar coat it for her, women need to stop doing this crap, going bac to men u treat u like garbage, thats want u wanted chhoops,

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  19. Some women say they want a good man, when they do, they just turn around and go back and eat their shit

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