He is scared of getting into a relationship

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He is scared of getting into a relationship

Dear Willie: I met a close friend of mine two years ago while working at a construction site. After the work was completed we kept in contact.

In February I took him out for his birthday, which was also the first time we had spent the night together. After that night we kept seeing each other, but he is not keen on having a serious relationship. I did try to push for a relationship but I have relaxed on that and instead just look out for him; if he needs something I help him out. We hang out at times on weekends, have sex occasionally.

What he does say is that women are problem, like he is scared of being in a relationship. I have grown to love him but I am not sure what to do.

Dear Miss: That’s a lucky guy: a girl to give him sex, help, company, and the whole nine yards without being pressed for a serious relationship.

Good thing is that he had admitted not wanting to be in a serious relationship. But before I go any further, I am curious: when did he state that he is not interested in a serious relationship? Was it after ya’ll had sex or before?

I am hoping he is not a player but based on what you said he could pass for one.

On the flip side, he could well be a good person who has had bad experiences with women and is scared to commit again.

I believe if he is really serious about you, after all this good treatment, he wouldn’t hesitate.

My advice is to think carefully whether you want to continue falling deep – too deep – for this guy. Is it worth it? Ask yourself that.

Willie

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19 COMMENTS

  1. Looks to me the man either has a girlfriend, or he is just enjoying his singly life. Nomatter what, does not worth the time , particularly if you want a commitment in relashionship. Life is short.

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  2. U setting yourself up for disappointment girl. You're probably sitting around hoping that when he does decide he wants a relationship he'll come running to you ...after all you've been all these things ti him from the get go. Well hun, chances are he won't. Especially when he's already getting the milk without having to buy the cow. Yall want different things, so go invest your time and energy on someone who wants the things you want my girl.

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  3. The fact that you have to ask means you are troubled by it. Therein lies your answer... You do not like it. Stop!!! Pronto!!! It will not get better, it will not change.
    You know how much more you can take . You already made your mind up too . already know what you would like to do as well.

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  4. My girl if you happy screwing him and have no problems witt that, go right ahead. Just make sure you protect yourself. Doesn't matter what anyone say am sure you'll do what you think is best for you.

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  5. woaha thats a good one. Girl u dont need advise you need a kick! stop allowing the man to use you

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  6. He wants he's cake n he wants to eat it to! After all can't blame him cause he made himself clear from the start stating he doesn't want a serious relationship! Non u can do can make him love you. Your wasting your time and money! Move on woman!!!

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  7. there is not reason for him to want a serious relationship when he is already getting everything that is in a serious relationship. why is it that women love hurting themselves

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  8. Thts some crazy shit my girl, I don't think you need any help,pause for a minute think then act on what you want.Make up your mind.Live you life girl cuz he is living his.

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  9. You should stop having sex with him because he will keep falling inlove deeper and deeper and then you will be the one getting hurt, but if you wanna continue with him don't go around saying he was just using when you know its all your fault...leave the poor guy alone; afterall you shudda known that he wasnt ready for a serious relationship...didn't you guys talk about that before you having sex or you just opened up and asked questions after?

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  10. Another slutty Lucian woman who is willing to offer anyone sex anytime.
    Hmmmm, where can i get one of those 🙂

    Babe, lets do the "friend" with benefits "thing." You satisfy me everyday to your heart's content:)

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  11. Ladies quit giving guys sex if they are not your husbands. If a guy is interested in you he will pursue you and eventually make you his wife. Look to God and be in the right standing with Him. See what He requires of you to please Him and He will give you the desires of your heart. Don't allow guys to use you. The same goes for guys. Don't allow people to use you for their own whims and fancies. God has laid out a plan for men and women to marry or remain unmarried. If the guy does not want to go further then leave it alone. What if he keeps using you then ups and get married to someone else? Maintain you self respect and dignity and pride as a woman.

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    • I agree with this fully time after time we women have fallen into that mess with men. If we were following it the Godly way, many of those things may not occur.

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  12. De man right...Trying to get the young man to fall in love so she can then Break his heart like a lababad.De yout ain't falling into that trap.

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  13. really just stop having sex with him cause his inconsiderable men women now adays has been their bank books but not me stop that habit of giving these guys money they dint have a heart or a brain to think he should be thankful for you being there with him and helping him in his trying times

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    • #1 God made man to take responsibility of their family and to be their head I don't know y women always want to take the lead. Let men do their jobs which was ordain to them!

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