Willie, my main problem is that my man has refused to shave. He is a naturally hairy person, hair in his ear drums, on his shoulders, back, face, buttocks – hair everywhere.
I have never been someone who likes hairy men but love triumphs over all. My boyfriend knew this from the time I was dating, but we never made it an issue. However, it seriously grosses me out, especially when he sweats during sex. He refuses to shave. He says I am trying to find an excuse to leave him.
I have endured this disgust for two years. It is not fair Willie, because whatever he does not like, I listen and comply. He refuses to shave the pubic hairs.
What other steps can I take?
Dear Miss: Well, it appears your man loves his hairs and values his hairs more than his relationship with you.
I had a similar experience years ago where a friend of mine refused to shave, use shampoo, use deodorant, lotion, perfume or sweet-smelling soap. She prefers to go all-natural.
But my major concern were her pubic hairs, like trying to eat some tuna in hairs as long as two inches. It wasn’t fun, and occasionally I had hair stuck in my teeth.
I volunteered many times to shave her, but she refused. She never, ever complied. And of course, the friendship never grew.
In your case, I believe you should make a tough decision if this guy does not want to comply. Can you at least ask him to shave the pubic hairs?
If he doesn’t, do what’s best for you. Does it makes sense to be unhappy, uncomfortable? Choose wisely.
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