Gift from client draws suspicion from co-workers

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Gift from client draws suspicion from co-workers


Dear Willie:
I work in an industry where I deal with clients on a one-on-one basis.

I am a very nice person and I get compliments from them all the time. Sometimes in return they will offer me lunch or sometimes cash, but Willie there was this returning national, she’s about late 60’s. She liked me very much, asking if I am married, and also she has a son who is single. She sounds like a nice person too.

Willie, she gave me a bracelet. She said that they prayed on it and was giving it to women who are abused and what not. She took it out of the jewelry box and put it on my wrist herself.

Willie, when she left my co-workers told me to take it out before something happens to me. As usual I listen to them and put it in my folder.

I just want to ask: did I do the right thing in removing the bracelet or should I appreciate the gift cause it is some time now and its been in my folder since then?

Thanks
Jer

Dear Jer: Your co-workers’  opinion are clearly motivated by superstition. Or probably they are just jealous of you, wishing they were the ones in receipt of the gift?

I cannot tell you what to do with a presumed ‘legal’ gift from a friendly stranger. However, you should ask yourself: if the shoe was on the other foot, would you have discouraged your co-worker/s not to wear or accept it? Do you feel any different or has your life changed negatively since you received the bracelet? Based on your interaction with the lady, do you trust her and believe she meant any harm?

Be guided by your answers.

Willie

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  1. Priceless, your name does not suit you , as your comment depicts the REAL YOU. YOU HAVE NO VALUE....NO SELF WORTH! Sort la!

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  2. There is one rule that all companies should stipulate in their employee guide book, you should not be accepting gifts from your client outside of a specific amount which might cause the client to assume they will receive favorable services at discounted rates when needed. In my book, you should have said thanks but no thanks from the first gift. This is unacceptable behavior between client and employee which in some companies is cause for termination by ethics committee.

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  3. Your coworkers are either jealous or superstitious, or both. And you removing the bracelet means you are also superstitious. The lady gave you a bracelet she prays on for abused women. You didn't state whether you were. If so, then what's the harm in she praying on it? Seems you have no problem accepting gifts from clients, so why should you allow coworkers to dictate or destroy your enjoyment of your gift?

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  4. Don't wear it. Your life seems to be going fine and you're happy. People do the craziest stuff for the craziest reasons. Evil is everywhere whether we believe in in or not.

    I advice you to even have a religious leader pastor, priest someone to pray forbu and on it if they are willing and through it away in the sea or flush it away in a toilet you do not use.

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  5. Forget the Obeah implications here for a moment.

    Accepting such a gift usually has unspoken expectations. Ask yourself: What will be expected now that you have ACCEPTED this gift?

    Also be ready with your answer when The Giver asks you why you are not wearing the gift. And you will be asked.

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  6. well frankly .. It seems that this lady has a special liking to you .. Maybe stronger than what you think .. It should be your decision on what to do .. I guess you're as superstitious as your coworkers .. But I can't blame you ..

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  7. Ummm, get something positive out of this situation. If you are superstitious and don't want to wear the bracelet, sell it. Get the cash. That way you don't have to worry about being possessed or anything of that nature. With the proceeds you can get an identical or another one. Your friends will be happy and so will you.

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  8. Well there are so much bad happening these days where people killing in prayers for wealth - maybe that is the reason why the co-workers are suspicious.

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  9. Hmm interesting! There is nothing wrong with accepting a gift from a client, however discretion should be used in certain situations. I'm a bit dumbfounded by 2 statements here. You said the customer prayed on the bracelet and said she is giving it to abused women? Why the hell would anyone pray on a gift if not for something in return? Also you mentioned her son is single... what does that have to do with her giving you the bracelet? You co-worker have good reason to be suspicious cause frankly so am I.

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  10. Seriously???? I am so use to cheating or baby mama and jabal drama on Dear Willie, when I read stories like these... it feels like a waste of my time...

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  11. Question- were u abused? U said that she gave it to abused women. It may be nothing to fear but i have learnt from experience how wicked people can be for No reason, well maybe jealousy.

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