Before we started dating I prayed about it to God a lot, asking for guidance to make the right decision. What attracted me to my boyfriend apart from his personality was that he is also a Christian, trying to be celibate. After some time, I felt God answered me and I decided to be with him, make the relationship official and introduce him to my family.
A couple months later we slipped off the wagon and had sexually intercourse once. However, I asked for forgiveness and took up a vow of celibacy again.
A couple weeks after that, my boyfriend gave me his phone to read piece of a conversation, but I ended up scrolling up a bit further than he expected and read something which alarmed me. He was planning on missing out on my birthday party and going to a party with another girl because he wanted to “knock that too.” I confronted him about it and he admitted to it. I asked him if he still wants to do that. He said no.
Willie I have forgiven him for that and believe we have moved past that. But my problem is that he does not try to make enough time for me. Sometimes two weeks would pass without us seeing each other. When we do make dates, he often does not show up, giving different excuses: his mother is sick, or he is tired, or he had to work late.
I understand things do come up, but I feel like I’m being stood up way too often. Quality time is really important to me and I have spoken to him about this several times. My boyfriend would start making more of an effort to spend time with me but then he resorts back to his old ways. What should I do Willie?
Dear Aggravated: You’re a wonderful lady. I believe your boyfriend’s attention is somewhere else. I do not believe he has no time for you.
Let me be brutally honest. In my opinion, I believe your boyfriend is getting sex elsewhere. He is not getting sex from you, so he is probably giving the attention to the person who is giving him some nookie.
The conversation was the icing on the cake, proof of infidelity. Missing your birthday party to have sex with someone? Catch a flight – not LIAT – out of this relationship. I believe he has already “knocked that” or he is continuously “knocking it” or “knocking a lot of that”.
It shows your boyfriend cannot be trusted. Just dump the *** and call it a day. Find someone who respects your decision and has time for you. God will send you someone who is worthy of your trust and faith.
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