Boyfriend found out she wrote to ‘Dear Willie’; she’s fed up and plans to leave

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Boyfriend found out she wrote to ‘Dear Willie’; she’s fed up and plans to leave


Below is the feedback from the writer of the letter “I have threesomes with my man, cook, clean and wash for him but he still cheats” which was published here on November 14.

Dear Willie: I found out about the other women through my friends and my own investigations. When I bring the issue up about his cheating he gets mad and tells me that I nag too much.

When I was pregnant with our child he made me go through hell. He was cheating with a girl from my area and would leave me in the house all alone and be everywhere with her. Football in the stadium, parties you name it. This man is just sick in his head and he’s ungrateful after all I’ve done with him and for him.

Imagine he got to know about this letter and you should have seen the amount of curse words and insults I received. Honestly I’m fed up of all this and he’s not worth it so I’m making plans to leave. And to the judgmental people who commented I bet their bedroom dirtier than mine!

Dear Miss: Thanks for your feedback. And a bigger thank you for agreeing for us to publish it. This should prove to our critics that the letters are all authentic.

Regarding your decision, at the end of the day, you must do what is best for you. I wish both of you could have resolved this amicably, however.

I hope your decision will work for the better.

Willie 

BELOW IS THE FULL LETTER PUBLISHED ON NOVEMBER 14

Dear Willie: I’ve been in a relationship with this man for about eight years now.

I will admit that when we just met he had a woman, but we still used to see each other on the side. He left his woman about three years ago and came to live with me. We have a two-year-old daughter now.

Willie, I am a bi-sexual and I do all positions in bed with this man. Anything freaky you can think of I do with him. I’ve been with several girls that I bring home and we have threesomes with him.

I am a good cook so he is always well fed. I cook and clean for him. But Willie all that is not enough, the man still finds a way to cheat on me. And what’s burning me is these meg and ugly girls don’t look better than me. Plus the thing is he cheats on me with two to three women. I want to leave him but I always find a way to go back to him.

What more can I do for this man to remain faithful to me?

Dear Miss: A lot of men would love to be in his position.

The truth is men will be men. People do not necessarily change: dogs will be dogs, cheaters will cheaters, especially when they are no longer in love with you. Maybe after eight years, he is tired of you and needs more fresh produce.

You’re also forgetting one detail: this man was a cheater before he became your boyfriend. You caused him to cheat on his woman. So it’s also Karma, which I believe in.

Have you ever discussed this with him? What was his response? How do you know about all the women he is cheating with?

He is the best person to tell you what will stop him. Find out and let us know.

Willie

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  1. Sorry but she lost me at the part when she said that when they met he already had a woman... So tell me lady, you think you're the exception, you didn't know what was coming. You were expecting the leopard to change its spots???
    How naive!

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  2. So wait first question is: when you allow him to have 3sum with u nd others what is that called?
    Honestly I think you're jealous because he's not bringing the women to share with you. I won't say u deserve it BUT u PAVED the way the moment u started bringing other women,so now he's finding them.

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  3. AA... You writing to WILLIE, a public forum and you mad when people comment...WELL READ THIS ONE! ......You really shameless and dirty to put up with all that shit! You probably deserve all the cursings you get...A WOMAN OF SUBSTANCE AND PRIDE WOULD HAVE LEFT! Grow some damn backbone and eh write Willie if you eh want chat....P.S. YOUR BEDROOM DIRTIER according to your situation! lol

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    • I agree reality. Why should she stop now. I think she should send a photo of herself so we can see who the nasty b..ch is. Because that's what she is. I'm not going to lay any blame at the feet of the man because she started it all.

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  4. I did have to comment on this because it reveals a level of intelligence on the part of St. Lucian's that is quite pathetic. Willie you are an idiot for the advice you give to folks.. I would suggest taking a counseling or therapy class where you can learn valuable counseling skills that will better prepare you to provide accurate information.
    To those who make all other silly comments, get your head out of your *** and stop being narrow minded.. geesh.. is this what st. Lucia has become...

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  5. B.A u r so full of shit. Women everywhere possess those same attributes. It is ignorant pigs like you who likes to put all St Lucian women in the same bracket. This letter may have well came from foreign. Who the hell knows? Does technology ring a bell? Smh So as ignorant as you are and as worthless as you see 'St Lucian' women, you will still sleep with one. That is so sad. It sounds like you are the insecure one. You don't hold the power to do anything but talk shit. And if you were a real man, those words would never come out of your mouth. We have amazing women in our country who are loyal and well put together. So take yr ridiculous words n shove it up where you're most probably shoving up something else, you ignorant ass! A boy like you, I wouldn't look at even once. Cha!

    Anyways! My girl, do what is best for you and your child/children. At the end of the day only you know how you feel and what you are going through. Ppl will judge you and talk about you whether it is bad or good. Take the step forward to a better and happier life as you deserve the best, we all do. Any man who doesn't see you worth, don't deserve you. Seek God and ask him to guide your steps. When God is for you, no one can be against you. I won't bash him as there is always more than one side to a story and I won't bash you either. You both were in the relationship and only you two knew why and the things that went on. If moving on is what you need to do, do it. Hope everything turns out good for you.

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  6. my girl in the first place you were wrong to bring other women into your bedroom and to sleep with your man so you put the taste in his mouth what you expect from him you are to blame and we need to live people men alone

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  7. i can't lie my bedroom is dirty , cause ME and my HUSBAND keep it filthy.

    best decision you've made yet, pack your stuff and leave

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  8. i guess what the pimps say is true you cant turn a whore into no house wife. and regardless if my bedroom might be dirtier than yours you doing all that crap with your self and dont expect him to cheat . honey there is a cycle that goes around and learn that never be with someone that leave their mate for the sake of you cause one day he will just leave you for another one to. which is the case in which you are in right now regardless if you decided to leave now cause he had already left you and you just didnt know it yet wen he was out with his other women. and further more now you complaining abt he cheating on you so when you were having threesomes tell me wasnt it still cheating on you during the threesome or would you call it cheating together with him. and just because you might think people judge you out there doesnt make your bedroom any cleaner and doesnt justify that the lifestyle you choose is right. we humans on the whole refuse to be corrected and refuse someone to tell us that what we are doing is not right but we quick to say people judging us when all they are doing is showing us right from wrong

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  9. men will always remain men women will always remain women i understand how this girl feels but she shouldnt let his cheating hurt her so much because once he had threesomes with u he will always cheat because that relationship was a free one to me u should just work it out plus u have yr woman so let him have his too simple am not juging u a lot love is the problem when we love its love

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  10. You, lady, single-handedly sat at your computer desk, put on your computer, typed and sent your issues to Willie, asking for bloggers' advise, then turned around and called bloggers "judegemental"!!

    My dear you need help.

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  11. This relationship was conceived in infidelity and so you also allowed him to sleep with other girls whilst with you therefore it's not surprising that he went behind your back and slept with other girls. I am sorry about your situation sweetheart but this should have been obviously foreseen. Pregnancy, wild sex and threesomes will not keep a man with you or change him, he will only only change when he decides to. I suggest that you move on with your life and stop hurting yourself over and over. Do you whats best for your kid but do not keep the man of his child's life because of the mistakes you guys made. Again I know that your predicament but you should absolutely move on.

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    • This relationship was conceived in infidelity and so you also allowed him to sleep with other girls whilst with you ;therefore, it’s not surprising that he went behind your back and slept with other girls. I am sorry about your situation sweetheart but this should have been obviously foreseen. Pregnancy, wild sex and threesomes will not keep a man with you or change him, he will only only change when he decides to. I suggest that you move on with your life and stop hurting yourself over and over. Do what is best for your kid but do not keep the man out of his child’s life because of the mistakes you guys made. Again, I sorry about your predicament but you should absolutely move on.

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  12. Sorry but I am telling u...u got him with another woman caused him to cheat so he will do it to u. Remember what goes around comes around. Also u are too brave and happy u opening yur relationship to others women is is cheating with your friends.what do u expect now...sweetie no matter what he will cheat....he is a cheater ....u to move on and give god your life ...change your life...the freaky ways will not cause a man to stay with u....mayb the women he is cheatin on u with is decent and does nothing like u....who know mayb that's what he wants....u need to grow up have more class and get yur own man....

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  13. Why do women play all the "victim cards" in any relationship?
    I am getting sick and tired of this nonsense.

    We are the ones who continually support women with this "victim card" mentality even when they behinds are exposed in every regard.

    When will we take our power back like men, and ensure those women understand that you need to be more rational and logical with your thinking.

    Because saying the same damn thing over and over just makes everyone pissed.

    This is why I refuse to date (but will sleep with a St. Lucian) for fun :). Because they appear to be the ones showcasing this all the time.
    And I seriously cannot and will NOT entertain this.

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