This is the first guy that my entire family has ever liked. He gives me everything I need or ask for but the problem is his phone. He can text or call people. I do not have a problem with that. The reason I get upset when he’s in his phone, is that since I rarely see him I want us to spend valuable time together.
I know he is a very friendly guy and talks to everyone the same way, which is killing me, because sometimes I feel like he doesn’t treat me this way. But he always makes time for me. What should I do?
Should I accept the fact that he will always be in his phone when we are together? I do not want to breakup with my boyfriend because of this phone issue. Please help me.
Dear Miss: You have not said if you have expressed your concerns to him. You only mentioned that you “get upset”. But how did you get upset? Did you lash out at him or did you feel bad and say nothing?
Whenever there is a problem in a relationship, the first method to tackle the problem effectively is through effective communication. That is sitting down together at a right time and place, and air your concerns.
Tell him you do not like it when he is always on his phone while you’re spending time. I agree with you, that “our time” is “our time”. Less distractions.
He sounds like a good boyfriend to me, so I do not believe you should break up with him for that. This is an issue that can be fixed.
It is good that he makes time for you despite his busy schedule, but you simply need that undivided-attention whenever he makes that time for you.
So it’s best to talk to him now. Do not pick an argument. Just tell him you do not have a problem with him communicating with whosoever but you just need some respectable attention.
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