We have had many break-ups and make-ups but the last break-up lasted for one year. I took it really hard, crying for months. She moved on and had a woman as her soul mate, living together, sleeping on the same bed with my child.
I was jumping from one woman to the other until I met this girl who I knew for 10 years. We decided to date until it became serious and she was my dream girl, then my ex kept walking streets, coming to my work place, tracking me when I’m out. She wanted her family back.
It took me six months to give her an answer. Now I pushed this girl away to be with my baby mama.
First month it was all okay. It’s true. I still had girls calling my phone but never cheated or even flirted. Now she keep saying she loves me, don’t want to see any woman with me, but she wants a break to party and have fun with friends. She is stressed out, goes out every time she is off and comes back 3 a.m. whilst I baby sit.
I really love her but don’t know what to do. Please, I need some help. I feel stressed and confused.
Dear Sir: I am yet to see where the issue is. She says she wants a break to party and fun with friends. You also mentioned she is stressed out.
Why is she stressed out? The fact that she is telling you she wants a “break” and wants to party with friends and have fun, suggests that you’ve not been allowing her to have her “me time”. If people go to party, especially on weekends, don’t you expect her to come home at 3 a.m? And who else gonna baby sit?
I am sure when you’ve been out, she had to baby sit too.
I believe you and her can work something out. You said she is stressed. I am sure she’s told you why she is stress. What are you not doing right? Are you giving her enough space? Are you giving her enough time to be with friends? Going out with friends to party does not necessarily means she is cheating. How about you and her going out together and hiring someone to babysit?
I won’t comment on your history with your baby mother and the girl you dumped to take her back. Focus now on what’s going on. Communicate, communicate… Brother if you know what the problem is, you can fix it.
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