Am I gay or bi? Girl develops strong feelings for Rodney Bay co-worker

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Am I gay or bi? Girl develops strong feelings for Rodney Bay co-worker

Dear Willie: I work at a restaurant in Rodney Bay. All my life I have known myself to be straight, meaning I have only dated guys.

Willie, for the last months I have developed strange feelings for a coworker and it is driving me crazy because I am afraid I cannot keep this secret any longer.

What is strange Willie is that I feel guilty about my feelings because I have never imagined I would feel this way with the same sex. This girl is so beautiful and smart and we get along well as coworkers. I am afraid if I tell her how I feel, it might ruin our working relationship.

I cannot explain the feeling but it is deep feelings of affection. Do you think I am gay or bisexual? I am confused. But I can’t keep this feeling inside any longer. I do not see us dating or anything but the attraction is strong. Please help me.

Dear Miss: I believe if you do not get this off your chest you will kiss the girl one day in front all the customers.

OK jokes aside, the best thing is to invite her out for a drink after work. And simply, be honest about how you feel. Tell her exactly what you have told me.

Stress that the feeling is unusual and you mean no disrespect and wish to continue having a good working relationship. Let us know what the result is.

If you’re gay or bi is something you will discover by yourself eventually. For now, you may just be bi-curious or just have a crush. Time will tell.

Willie

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  1. For all you folks that sees same sex love or relationship as a huge sin and quoting the Bible, i would like to say that the same God in the Bible created Man and Woman from a Man, and if God with all his powers did not want us to have relationships with the same sex, then he would of controlled that. So lady be happy and love and accept yourself whether you are Bi or Gay or a liitle of both and do not feel guilty or ashamed to have a healthy intimate relationship with someone of the same sex. Keep it real and make sure that the other is an adult and knows what she wants. Lots of success you are just a normal Human being full of love.

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  2. Feelings? Lady suppress those feelings and turn to the Most High. Don't let these evil feelings cause you to burn. There are consequences for this type of behaviour. If not in this life but on judgement day! Pleasing the Almighty Father is more important than pleasing yourself.

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    • you do realize suppressing anything and visualizing the pain of hell as punishment for thought crime is setting people up for being unhappy, and unfulfilled in life. Pleasing no one or anythings matters more than being true to yourself and doing as you see fit...emancipate yourself from mental slavery. Hell was the only way small minded and ignorant people could use to control even less educated masses.

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  3. For those mocking the Word of the Almighty and calling it a fairy tale, just know that He is not slack concerning His promise. Eternity for the righteous and eternal damnation for the unrepentant sinners. What will you say to the Father when you meet Him face to face? Surely you will have to answer to Him about every little detail of your life. Everything you ever said and did. What will you say to Him? There will be no second chance then. People need to repent from all these abominations and sin and stop listening to their flesh. All sin is committed outside the body. Sexual sin is committed with the body. Demons use sexual sin to invade peoples bodies. REPENT and OBEY the Almighty to be spared from His wrath. Many repent but do not obey. They repent with their lips and not their actions. Remember the Most High is angry with the wicked (sinners) every day. Adulterers, fornicators, liars, thieves, murderers, envying, jealousy, homosexuality, covetousness, obscenities, cursing, unbelief of His Word. Nothing or no one is worth going to hell for. He who has ears let him hear.

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    • for your sake i hope you live by the word of the bible and don't do things it considers a "sin" like cutting your hair and a bunch of other ridiculous stuff we do everyday

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  4. Feelings are feelings.. its not always wise to go according to youre emotions.God gave us the ability to use our judgement and discretion.. Its ok to feel a certain way about the same sex but whats most important is the action taken. The Lord has taught us that homosexuality is a sin. It may not be easy.. but you should try to overcome those feelings.. EVERY ROPE HAS AN END. So does every trial we face.. you know what is right. stick to the will of GOD and you will see the rewards

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    • I read your comment and i just couldn't stop laughing.
      You must have been really "gassy" at the time. 🙂

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  5. If you felt the urge to kill a person would you do it? There are consequences toour actions. Learn self control. Read the Bible it will help you through this. Any sin that we struggle with can be helped through prayer and the word of God.

    No one can help you but yourself and God. Seeking advice from every and any one will make matters worse.

    Wishing you all the best!

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  6. Asking a "Botnet," whether she is gay or bisexual.
    You are a typical salop with good intentions of making all human genders feel good. 🙂
    So, STFU!

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  7. i spoke to him, told him how i feel about his advances and my opinion on same sex, he understood me and now there is mutual respect between us. i respect him and his life style and he respect my choice not to engage in any act with him. i have not regretted that decision yet and hopefully never will. so the ball is in your court. hope i have been of some help to you and others out there who are going or have gone through similar test in their life. thank you

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  8. This young lady needs advice and help according to what she wrote, and some of us here making the young lady feel worst about her feelings. Miss i don't know you and i will not judge you but there is nothing wrong with the feelings you are having right now, what is goona make it wrong is you acting on those feelings and committing the homosexual act. you'll need to realize we cannot force our faith on people, we have all sinned. miss you have to answer to only one person for your action and that is the Almighty God. Whatever you choose to do with this test that has been placed in your life is ur decision to make cause you alone will have to leave with the consequences of your decision. I have been in a similar situation where this guy was lusting after me and you know what

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  9. The Almighty said go and sin no more. Not some more. Why so many people encourage sin is preposterous! We are to encourage others to do the right thing not applaud their sin. Yes we all sin but that does not mean we have to encourage it. Homosexuality is an abomination. It is of the flesh. It's downright despicable to see people condone sin like that. There are plenty other sins which people commit and pass it as the norm just because society accepts it. Does that mean everyone has to follow the bandwagon?Then we wonder why our country has so much bloodshed. Live clean so you will appear spotless before the Most High on judgement day. Rather be judged here and now than face the wrath of the Almighty on judgement day!

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  10. my suggestion is that you pray about, ask God to take away this homosexual demon that is tempting you, I'm not here to judge, we all sin and come short of the glory of God, many of us fornicate on a day to day basis, have 3 children and never been married and no one makes a fuss about because society has accepted it, just like they're now starting to accept Gays, remember sin is sin none is greater than the other, you lie, you're a sinner, you sleep with the same sex, still a sinner, the devil and his army are finding creative ways to steal our soul without us noticing, he is there to steal, kill and destroy, don't give into temptation, the almighty had a perfect plan, man to woman and vice verse, he made us to honor and glorify him, our life is not our own, no such thing as "my life i'll do what i want, give the father the respect he deserves, don't give in or you will burn just like Sodom and Gomorrah

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  11. Talk about it, if she agrees give it a go lool. He without sin cast the first stone....them ppl quoting scriptures doing more [email protected] with themselves. Only when it pleases them they wanna quote scriptures. Stop making our god seem as a wicked god.

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  12. It look like st. Lucia have lots of ppl that have never sinned cus they are casting alot of stones. Not condoning same sex relationships but that should be a person choice,let them deal with the consequences and judment of the almighty. No sin is greater than the other. Ppl tend to believe murder ,homosexuality,abortion etc is a greater sin than a white lie,sex before marriage or adultery well its not. Ppl talk about god n use curse words in the same statement but u righteous. Pls

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  13. Work and play are a bad mix. Keep that feeling to yourself if you do not want to lose your job as well as the work relationship between the two of you. Keep your corrupt mind off the guy's girlfriend. How dare you want to deny the male of what biologically belongs to him. Find some thing else to freak out on. To get rid of this vibe think of sausages ever time she come to mind.

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  14. All you hyprocrites talking about abomination. The majority of our children born in this country is out of wedlock and the priests baptized them. How many of us live double lives, screwing people's spouses and walking on the streets with our heads high. The majority of married people cheat, the number of us that are not gay but glady engage in threesomes. It not ny place to tell anyone to live their lives but only to tell them think of what the consequences. All sins are sins in the eyes of the lord none is greater. We all have sinned and will continue to sin because we are not perfect. Paul who was better rhan us said he had to constantly battle within himself to do what is right. So many of us lie, deceive others yet it is amazing that sexual sins it the only sins we lucians know. THOSE WHO ARE WITHOUT SINS THROW THE FIRST STONE. i rest my case

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  15. wow I have forgotten how small minded and brainwashed lucians are by an ancient barbaric book called da bible... of which they practically know nothing about the history of.... the bible is just a historic book people... written by ancient and superstitious people... this book is full of contradictions and errors which yall leaders try to hide from yall blind sheep....

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      • It was one of you who made fun of religion. Who made fun of my want to wait for marriage. Who made fun of my faith, who raped me. Who took what they saw as inconsequential and childish and took away my innocence. Who has made Saint Lucia a darker place. I m wary of fools like you who make it easier for wolves to operate among you. You are the type to make excuses for the worst, all in the name of freedom.

        You all seem foolish, not even naive. Lost in a world where people can act selfishly and only with their desire in mind and you think the consequences won't be horrific.

        I avoid short-sighted 'adults' like you.

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