Willie, for the last months I have developed strange feelings for a coworker and it is driving me crazy because I am afraid I cannot keep this secret any longer.
What is strange Willie is that I feel guilty about my feelings because I have never imagined I would feel this way with the same sex. This girl is so beautiful and smart and we get along well as coworkers. I am afraid if I tell her how I feel, it might ruin our working relationship.
I cannot explain the feeling but it is deep feelings of affection. Do you think I am gay or bisexual? I am confused. But I can’t keep this feeling inside any longer. I do not see us dating or anything but the attraction is strong. Please help me.
Dear Miss: I believe if you do not get this off your chest you will kiss the girl one day in front all the customers.
OK jokes aside, the best thing is to invite her out for a drink after work. And simply, be honest about how you feel. Tell her exactly what you have told me.
Stress that the feeling is unusual and you mean no disrespect and wish to continue having a good working relationship. Let us know what the result is.
If you’re gay or bi is something you will discover by yourself eventually. For now, you may just be bi-curious or just have a crush. Time will tell.
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