After a few weeks of dating I asked him if he had a girlfriend, he said no. I felt like I was floating way pass the clouds as he had a wonderful personality, a great job, his own place and his own vehicle.
He treated me just as I treated him. Trust me Willie, things were going great. Up until a year after, I got to know he had a girl pregnant for him. I was dumbfounded and crushed. When I confronted him he was so sorry and explained everything to me. All along he had a girlfriend of seven years.
I was really hurt but being I was so in love with him, I stayed. He begged me not to leave him. Now she knows me and harrasses me, calls me 24/7. He still tries to be good to me but I keep seeing her face.
I feel like things will never be the same but I really love him and I know he loves me. My mom says I should leave but I am so comfortable with him. And I love him so much I feel like I can’t.
I am unemployed and he takes care of me. I am hurting and depressed over this. It just isn’t as easy as you may say, to leave him. It’s hard. Please help me.
Dear Miss: This guy is a master player. Unfortunately you have fallen in love with him. You’re right: At first glance, I thought to tell you, “leave the man alone”, but you’ve already admitted it won’t be easy. And I believe you, and I understand.
Well, why don’t you play the game too? Continue to eat his money. Times are rough and you don’t have a job, so don’t stress it. If you do not intend to leave him yet, might as well you continue to make most of his benefits while ensuring you protect yourself. Don’t get pregnant.
This guy is a smooth player and he needs a dose of his own medicine.
I believe part of the reason you believe you cannot do without him, is the fact he takes care of you financially. Well, proceed until you get a job. When it is hard to get over someone, “tek wey yuself” in stages. Getting over someone does not happen overtime. Take it one step at a time, be smart.
Trust me when I say this: No matter how much you believe you cannot get over him, you will get over him. Eventually, you will grow tired of his bull— and go – if he doesn’t shape up..
As my mom always say, “If you cannot hear, you will feel.”
But one thing I note from all these letters: men here seem to have a “lying disease”. And I am wondering why are women falling for these lies so easily? Don’t ya’ll investigate before going with a guy? I mean, investigating as in not just listening to haters or hearsay, but actually doing your own investigations.
I think a lot of females in St. Lucia are minding people’s business and not minding their own. You’re talking piss about another guy and another relationship, but you fail to address the underlying issues in yours. Females here got to be a bit more vigilant in their relationships. It is ok to “float”, be in love, and be happy, but be smart. Not everything you see, actually looks the way you see it.
I know females in relationships for many years and had no idea their men had multiple children outside the relationship, for example. How did ya’ll allow this to happen? From what I know, a lot females here know everybody’s business. I guess they don’t know about theirs. OOps!
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