We go out once in a while. Every time we speak, he’s always busy doing work. I really want to ask him about where I stand with him but don’t know where to start off. Twice I told him that I need to have a serious conversation with him when he’s not busy, but he never tells me when he’s not busy.
We sleep together but yet still I need to know because I really do like him. I tried to express my feeling to him but again I don’t know how to start.
Every time I would text him and ask him that if he’s seeing someone else and he says “no bbz”. He’s not from St. Lucia but he works here. Can you please help me talk to this guy?
Dear Miss: Five months communicating and having sex with a guy and you haven’t told him how you feel? You had the courage to sleep with him but not the courage to discuss a relationship?
He wasn’t too busy to have sex with you right? He wasn’t too busy to answer other questions right?
In fact, that was the first thing you should have done – clarify his intentions before sleeping with him.
What’s interesting is that you had the guts to ask if he’s seeing anyone – which he responded to – but not the guts to simply ask “Are you interested in a serious relationship?”
The most I can say now is: ask him if he’s interested in a relationship with you. If he says no, you will feel hurt, but do not feel used, because you put yourself in this situation. Just be prepared for any answer.
On another note, if this guy wanted a relationship, I believe he would have said or hinted something by now. After all, it’s been five months since you’ve been giving him milk and meat without ‘(Vagina Added Tax) VAT’.
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