A taste of his own medicine?

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A taste of his own medicine?


Dear Willie:
I have been with this girl for about five years. We have had our ups and down like normal people do.

She always breaks up with me when I bring up something that she does or she gets upset and doesn’t want to hear anything I have to say. I must admit I haven’t always been a saint. I treated her badly in the beginning of the relationship.

Willie, one of the problems I have is that she just can’t seem to forgive me for anything that has happened. She always brings it up. I have been trying to make up for my mistakes but I feel like she is taking me for granted, because she always breaks up with me.

Recently everything has just been very bad. She insults me a lot and is always upset with me for no reason. She doesn’t take my calls and doesn’t respond to my messages.

She says I don’t have time for her though I spend most of my time with her. Things have gotten so bad that we haven’t had sex with each other in about seven months. I have confided in her friends and they all say that women don’t treat men they say they love like this for no reason.

She tells me she loves me all the time. I have asked her on several occasions if she’s seeing someone else and she says no. I just don’t know what to do or know what she wants.

Dear Sir: Sounds like she is spiting you for what you did to her earlier in the relationship. The constant break-ups and reliving the past backs up my statement.

I believe she knows what she wants. And this is what she wants: to let you feel the pain and hurt you put her through in the beginning.

The females here can have a very twisted way at getting back at men: using spite. They will try to hurt you “discreetly”. The “slow death” type of hurt: make you hurt without knowing you’re being hurt. I believe she thinks the revenge would be sweeter to treat you like crap than just telling you the relationship is over.

I don’t believe she loves you. Nothing you described in this letter sounds like love to me. Plus, she sounds immature. I can bet you the half-dead fan in my apartment that this girl is a teenager or in her very early 20s. Ladies and real women don’t act that way.

I think you need to find another girlfriend and stop asking the obvious.

And no sex for seven months? Brother man, don’t tell me you’re not having sex. And don’t tell me you believe she is not having sex with anyone else.

This doesn’t sound like a relationship. This appears like an episode of Tom and Gerry.

Anyway, you get the picture, so make your move.

Willie

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41 COMMENTS

  1. BROTHER MAN THAT YOUNG LADY IS JUST HAVING FUN HURTING YOU, AS THE OLD SAYING GOES YOU REAP WHAT YOU SO.I THINK YOU ARE JUST REAPING WHAT YOU SOWED. WE ARE ALL HUMAN WHO DEAL WITH PROBLEMS DIFFEENTLY. IF YOU ARE TRUELY REPENTANT, NEXT TIME SHE BREAKS UP WITH YOU MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AND TRUST ME SHE WILL BE THE ONE APOLAGISEING TO YOU. GOD LOVES YOU REGUARDLESS WHAT YOU DID.
    HAVE SOME SELF ESTEEM....

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  2. Question your self people!! What advised can will give that i don't know, Who is Willie? What broadcast my problem on the web? be wise and open-minded..............There is nothing another man can do or say that you CAN NOT do if you put you mind to it .....Fix you own problem....

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  3. Willie and the crew, do you all think not have sex for 7 months is a problem after being abuse by a man, Sex is not all about being in love with someone or love someone.Why he don't come out and say what he did but all these small mind people who is running to you Willie thinking yo can give them advised need to wake up, How do they know that you are better.Ladies and gentleman communication is the key, Have a seat and talk to you partner be open minded and stop making Willie and all these people LOL at you.Willie is a man just like you. Stand your own battle

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  4. You scumbag deserve all you get! You'll men eyes are too bright! When a woman is scorned Hell have no fury. You need to walk away from this and don't even look back. If she decides to get back with you, now your life will be a living hell! You guys need to understand cheating, will take you nowhere...vien santi. She should stuff her dirty draws in your face while you sleep...smh

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  5. @I think should get a special part in dear Willie or at least give him a small section so u will see dear willies answer and ab right after

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  6. No sex for 7 months and you still refer to that as a relationship? if you are repentant and the lady can't forgive and then treats you bad, then it's time to move on. Constant breakups are immature and shows that this relationship died awhile ago. She is definitely stringing you along, making you pay for the past hurt.Are you going to stay another year in such a mess? Isn't your happiness and sanity more valuable? You hurt the lady, but it doesn't mean you should allow someone to treat you poorly. Use this relationship as a learning experience to respect and treat your future girlfriends better

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  7. A lot of you here are saying the lady is cheating on the man since she hasn't had sex with him in 7 months but that may not be the case at all. I've seen couples stay without sex for much longer than that and they're deeply in love. Ppl sex does not make a relationship! It's merely one way in which a couple can express love as there are other ways of showing love, okay.

    Now moving on, based on this letter I believe that the lady is still angry at the man for how he treated in the past. She either needs to forgive him and stop punishing him or let him know that she no longer wants to be with him but what she is doing right now is wasting both their times. If she thinks he is not right for her then she should allow the man to move on, playing with ppl feelings is wrong and she should know firsthand how that feels.

    Willie, it doesn't have to be a woman in her teens to early 20s who acts immature as some people in this age group are even more mature than their elders 😉

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  8. Hammmm look like my advice is working, when a man abuse and treats you bad, but the sex is good you can't think right but when you stop having sex you are able to see through the thinnest line. Earlier this year this women did ask for help from Willie while the guy was having fun and gallivanting all around the place.

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  9. Why does she keep breaking up with you? Is is that you keep repeating the same mistakes over and over? Then it means you keep hurting her and haven't changed at all.

    It seems some persons are more concerned that they haven't been having sex more than they're concerned that the woman might still be hurting. If the relationship is that important to you then try communicating and see how things go.

    AB, to properly eat the banana, maybe they should just bite down hard on it. It will be well eaten.

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  10. Willie, it's Jerry with a 'J' not a 'G'. I just find this whole scenario humorous. Don't tell me mate honestly believes that woman loves him. Mate getting emotional abuse there, left right and centre and he eh check himself? Poor jab.

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  11. My brother!! I ain't in there and no nookie 4 7 mths. U ain't a virgin ma..hard to suck in but she's tolerating u bro...u can't jus forget tht but move out slowly..and plz kip ur head high and let her c u shining..she will regret she treated u this way.. Don't go back though...

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  12. Her "love" is a virtual love for you while anudda nigga gets the physical love,why you letting dis chick insult yuh anyways, yuh ain't had sex in seven months, dis chick insults yuh and you still want to know what to do? Really??

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  13. The girl said she loves you, but do you love her? women are very intuitive, don't expect forgive so soon. Her lover treated her bad

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  14. My brother this relationship is dead. You are just wasting your time. Sex is a form of expressing love in a relationship. So she has moved passed you, she just punishing you for the time cause you allow it. Stuff Luck you out

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  15. I have been there as a woman. She's hurting. Maybe when he says he's changed she doesn't believe him. She's maybe trying not to get hurt by him again. Maybe she still loves him but cant give him that opportunity to hurt her again. What goes around comes around. U should feel her pain the same way. Some men think that they can do us and we should just accept. No. .. It hurts too much. They need sometimes to know what it feels like to be in the hurting situation. I for some reason believe she still loves him. U got to prove that u have stopped and are willing to make it up to her. She wont forget about the past so easily. Have u even tried to whooo her in like its a fresh relationship. ???? If you love her let her know with actions and not words. Prove it to the world first and then to her.

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  16. Buddy I was in a similar situation trust me when I tell you yes she may be doing most of those things to you to get back at you but I can guarantee you 100 percent man to man she cheating on you, she got a taste of the outside cock and now she hooked typical good girl gone bad situation. Boss cry if you have to but move on with your life you will better in time.

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  17. You don't have to run. Stay and take your blows like a man if you really want her. Persistence is the key. She must give in. However, at the end of the day, I hope you learnt the same lesson she learnt from you.

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  18. Sounds like someone is not being honest. WOmen are not crazy, youre most likely doing something to her o f which she sees is too much, as the reason for the constant breakups. In addition, you havent had sex for that long because, who wants to be fighting all the time then have sex, it wont happen- both are you are irritating each other. Another common thing that men do is, they have arguments then want to resolve the issue afterwards, no resolve first ... Communication is always key here, do not accuse of what you dont know, but if you love her, try to make it work. Go out on a date, and express your feelings over the candlelight.

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  19. Now that you got a taste of your own medicine all of a sudden your the victim don't u think she is still in pain n hurting after all u put she through I mean seriously u deserve all u get as for her she ready move on she just holding u by saying I love u to hurt u more for wat u did to her

    Like the saying goes you never miss the water till the well dry!!!

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