Ever wondered why your woman is behaving a certain way? Asking for more money? Want her hair done more often than before? Wants a new cell phone? Wants to know why you’re not encouraging her?
Make a guess?
Obviously that’s because another man or woman singing gospel in her ears. If you know your woman very well, you will notice as soon as she changes – anything from her attitude to her way of dressing.
If your wife used to dress like an old woman, how come all of a sudden she dressing hot? She may not necessarily be trying to impress you. She is more than likely checking a man on the side who brings out the best in her. Or, she is simply trying to impress someone else to get their attention.
Problem is women become bored easily. And even if you’re a good man to her – giving her money, giving her good sex – but you’re not giving her the attention she needs, like going out often, romancing her, or staying home with the family, more than likely she will find a sugar man on Facebook or Hi5 to hook up with. Then Bingo, he hits her jackpot and she’s gone.
Every woman is easily influenced. Let none of them fool you. Some just like to put on a good show, but become a woman whisperer and she is all yours. Women like attention, so they are very good at listening. They love to hear what they want they love to hear nice words, especially if you keep at it.
So telling a girl she would like fine in this and that, she should join this and that group, she would do better in this and that career, in no time, she will change, esp. if she believes it’s better for her. But you, as her man, can be singing the same tune into her ears for years, she wouldn’t listen. But most times the messenger in her ears just want to taste some of her fish meal. but women always think the grass is greener on the other side because there man has a fault.
So stop being naive when your woman make a sudden change. If your gut feeling tells you she is up to something, she is.
Long ago I used to date this girl, we became separated as in intimately. Then suddenly, she began dressing extra nice – wearing lip stick, makeup, new clothes, new shoes. So am like, what’s the reason for the makeover. Well, I asked her. She denied having or getting close to anyone else. But I know that was a big butt lie because we all know women like to lie and they lie well.
So all I did was sit back and observe more. Now this makeover trend continued. She was very, very careful with her dressing. She started going to the gym, and she joined a local club. Sooner than later she broke the news: “Nice Guy, I am seeing Raymond.”
All I said was: “Of course I know you was seeing Raymond. Is Raymond a member of the club you just joined?”
“Errrr… yea… how did you know that?” she asked.
See, if men take the time to know and understand women you will not be easily fooled. Women are as transparent as plastic, and little white or black lies will not stand up in your home court.
So next time you see your woman training for the Olympics, trying to run the 100m dash in under 12 seconds, give one of the world’s fastest men a call.
By the way, before I go, I wanna apologise for being late. I promise to be early next Friday.
He was accused of killing his cousin, 25-year-old Richard Daniel of the same community.
Health Talk: When not to exercise
Wednesday, June 30th, 2010You need to listen to your body and cues it gives you and decide if exercise is right at that time. Should you just do it, or call in sick to the gym? Here are some pointers.
YOU’VE GOT A FEVER
Stay home and rest. A fever says your immune system is battling an infection, and doesn’t need the stress from exercise on top of that. If you exercise anyway, be alert for overheating and dehydration, since body fluids are lost when you have a fever. You probably won’t get a great workout, since a fever increases your resting heart rate, leading to a less effective workout.
YOU’VE GOT A COLD
The cold can make you miserable, but doesn’t rule out exercise of moderate intensity. If you go to the gym when you have a cold, use hand sanitizer and wipe off any surfaces you touch to avoid contaminating your gym buddies. The bottom line: It’s understandable if you choose to take it easy, but exercising with a cold doesn’t make you sicker.
YOU’VE GOT THE FLU
Relax at home and skip the gym until you recover. The flu brings a fever, so heed the same fever rules outlined above.
YOU HAD A RECENT ASHMA FLARE-UP
If the flare-up was due to a respiratory infection, drop exercise for a few days and see doc if symptoms persist. If doc has said exercise is safe for you and your asthma is well-controlled, working out may be o.k. But start slowly and warm up for 10 minutes. If you have exercise-induced asthma, low-to-moderate intensity, intermitted exercise or swimming may be best. If you’re working out, stop if you can’t catch your breath or feel tired and weak. Always have a treatment plan in place, that is take along your inhaler or use it before exercising.
YOU RECENTLY HAD A CONCUSSION
Even if you feel o.k., don’t even think of sports or exercise until doc says it’s safe. A concussion is traumatic injury to the brain, which needs time to heal properly. If another head injury occurs from exercise before the concussion has healed, the brain may swell, with catastrophic results.
YOUR OLD SPORTS INJURY IS BOTHERING YOU
Skip workout and see doc. This is usually a bad sign, especially if you have pain during activity. Sudden pain requires immediate medical help.
YOU FELT A SHARP PAIN THE LAST TIME YOU WORKED OUT
Don’t workout until you see doctor to rule out an injury. If you exercise anyway, an injury may be made worse. Although it’s expected to feel soreness after you work out, it is never o.k. to feel pain.
YOUR BACK HURTS
Take it easy for a few days and see if your back feels better. Pay attention to what worsens or eases the pain. If bending or twisting bothers you, avoid these movements to promote healing. If your pain continues or interferes with your daily activities see your doctor.
YOU DIDN’T SLEEP LAST NIGHT AND NOW YOU’RE TOO TIRED TO EXERCISE
Get up and get moving. A morning workout may be just what you need after a restless night to boost your energy level and get you ready for the day. But if you’re always fatigued – not jut a bit tired, but to the point of not being able to function – forget workout and see doc. Extreme or persistent fatigue can be a sign of illness.
YOUR MUSCLES ARE SORE
You can do light-intensity workouts, such as walking, instead of running. You can even skip the workout and rest, if the soreness is too severe. And if your muscles are very sore because you overdid it the last workout, be sure to make your workouts more reasonable.
YOU’RE PREGNANT
Ask your doctor about a safe exercise program. Yoga, swimming, walking and other low-input and moderate-intensity exercise can be very beneficial during pregnancy. Be sure to stay hydrated, take breaks, and avoid getting overheated. Don’t do exercises to strain your back and belly. Contact sports, bicycling, horseback riding and such are off-limits, because of risks of falls and abdominal injury.
IT’S BEEN A ROUGH WEEK AND YOU’RE WIPED OUT
Exercise may help reduce your stress and boost your energy. So put on your gym clothes and start a moderate workout. After 10 or 15 minutes, most likely you’ll feel fine and want to continue.
DON’T RUSH YOUR COMEBACK
Don’t jump right back into your regular exercise after being out for an illness or injury. It takes a lot of energy to maintain muscle strength, flexibility and cardiovascular fitness – and little time to lose it.
Return to exercise slowly and carefully.
There’s a bit more on this topic, but I’ve probably taken up too much space already.
Drop a question through DNO if you like. See you next week.
Dr. Emanuel has been an educator of medical professionals in training, and the public, for over twenty (20) years.
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